I've got a four year old step-daughter who I pick up for visitation every other weekend and every thursday night for five hours. At transfer of the child, she'll sometime kick her mother, cry that she doesn't want to go, try to run away, and repeatedly says, "Is this a short visit or a long visit". I live in Canada where same-sex couples share custody of children. My ex-spouse and I planned our daughter, had her together, then we split approximately one year later in a very bad way. Our seperation was ugly and I'm afraid that our daughter has taken the brunt of most of it. My step-daughter also sometimes runs to me with delight at pick up. And, I've since birthed a boy that she considers her younger brother. I beleive that my daughter's behaviour is taught to her. My ex-spouse tried very hard in court to make it so that I could not ever see our daughter again. If this behaviour is being taught, how can I offset it? What should I do?