I have a 4yr. Old son and he has separation anxiety. At first I thought he was ADHD cause of his tempers and how would follow me around and cry and screams. "Yes we spoiled him and are trying very hard not to do that know." if he asks for something we have to do it ASAP or he will have a fit from "hell". (If you have a child like this then you know what I'm talking about, "fit from hell".) He was put on abilifty in January, it worked very well until school started... The school and his doctors say it's separation anxiety. Before school started I couldn't leave unless in would sneak out... Then when school started it has seemed to get worse. He gets up and ready for school and he is all happy until he sees the bus coming down the road... I have to pick him up and walk on the bus and make him sit in his seat while he is screaming, crying, pulling on my clothes... His older sister sits in the seat with him to block him in the seat and I run off the bus... Everyday we do this, since Aug, 22,2011... We are going on 3months... He was so bad and upset the bus driver brought him back home.I took him to school and it took 3 teachers to hold him while I ran out of the school... That was the only time he acted like that at school... I email his teacher every morning to let her know how he was before school, she says by time he gets to her class, he is fine, like nothing ever happened. He talks with the consular at school, we have done a bus sticker chart, reward money, taking his favorite stuffed animal to school, seats anywhere on the bus, cartoons in morning, jamming to the radio in morning, checking our garden every morning.... Nothing seems to help... He was coming home in a very grouchy mood so I winged him off his abilfity... I thought may be thought was causing the anxiety problems... He gets home happier and peacefully but the morning bus stopes are tearing me up... I walk away from the bus crying most morning cause he is so upset... If anyone has had these issues and have found relief for you and your child, please let me know... I'm willing to try anything and everything...
We even had a friend put him on bus and it worked for a week, then she had to go home, when she returned for a couple of weeks we had her put him on again and that didn't work anymore... I'm the only one who can actually carry him on bus and make him sit in his seat,( which might take a couple of min.) if my husband did it, well let's just say our son wouldn't be getting on the bus... Daddy would give in... I know it's not good... Please any suggents would help.... Thanks!