I have been struggling off and on with my son's behavior for the last two years. We have a secure family unit with both parents at home, and we have an older daughter, aged 8 1/2. Both have been in daycare or school most of their lives, but I spend virtually every other minute after a regular 8-5 work day with them and on the weekends. My son is VERY attached to me, and does not want to be separated from me at all. He doesn't want to go to school, even though he attends a very nice, loving preschool (and having the same teachers his sister had, I know it is not part of the problem), he only wants to stay home with me. If he needs a glass of milk or a blanket, etc., it is always me that has to get it or perform the task. His Dad is more than willing, and his sister is good to him too, aside from the occasional sibling disagreement, but he says "no, I want mommy to do it". This, I would not be too concerned about, but some days he throws temper tantrums at school where a teacher gets kicked and today he attempted to bite the counselor who was trying to escort him to class. He is VERY intelligent and in many cases I believe he does it so I have to come to school for a conference, etc. His Dad has a rather long commute, so it is me that would have to take care of these issues. That said, I am concerned he is nearing a possible suspension (horrid thought for a 4K student!), and we have to make some changes. I considered changing our routine to take every privilege away as a rule and make him earn those daily rather than taking away things when he is bad. I also wonder if, because he seems to act out to get my undivided attention, it wouldn't be prudent to "remove mom", and by that I mean tell him if he behaves as he should that he and I will do some special activity together just he and I for X minutes. Force him to allow his Dad and sister (or teachers in the case of school) to nurture him more than I, and refuse him when he demands that I am the one to perform the task. If I truly thought it was because he didn't have enough attention from me, I would drop everything and give him that, but I think it is more an issue of being "spoiled" because he is the baby, and for many years, he has been the one that life revolved around. Does anyone have suggestions for me, or comments on these two ideas?