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5 year old getting worst..
Ladies I need your advise with my 5 year old. He is turning 5 tomorrow his name is conner hes adorable. He is not listening to me @ all. I try my hardest with him but nothing phases him. I give him time outs all the time go to stores if he wants something like candy I say no he starts screaming I take him out of the store.....I have him go to bed early when he doesn't behave. Im trying my best but Im getting so frustrated cause I don't know what else to do......I needs some advise.........
Thank you
Thank you
Thanks. I really try my hardest with him the advise you gave me was good. My husband been a little better with the computer but I would like it even better.....We live in the same city but different home... Im sure the adjusting is bothering him going to a different scholl soon. Its alot on him I think but I guess kids respond in different ways. Your really helpful to. I just want everything back to normal his birthday is 2 morrow hes excited he will be 5. I try not to yell when he misbehave cause I know it makes matters worst........Thanks again I hope everything is well with you....
Hey there Bip,
I don't really know your most recent situation, but last I remember you've just moved into a new home, in a new city? And also, you've mentioned your husband has been glued to the computer and not exactly meeting the family's emotional needs as far as "being there." I hope things are working themselves out for you concerning those issues.
Anyway, I think Conner is probably still adjusting to the move, and perhaps he's acting out from lack of positive attention from his father? I don't know...I'm just trying to consider what might be going through his little head after all the issues and events you've posted about your family.
The only things I can think to suggest is really have a heart-to-heart with your husband first of all, because I think having a father enforce discipline alongside the mother is essential to children, *especially* boys. He needs to be more involved with his family and less with the computer games.
Secondly, I'd suggest to up the praise for Conner with *everything* he does right or does well, even everyday little things, such as brushing his teeth or putting clothes in the laundry basket or tieing his shoes. I mean, don't gush over him or anything, that'll just make you seem silly to him and maybe annoying, but rather, express your appreciation with a bit more emphasis or hype up the interest in something that's normally mundane.
Thirdly, perhaps crack down more harshly on discipline when you *do* need to do it. Maybe instead of just a time out, he also loses a favorite toy or can't participate in a favorite event that day as well. Maybe for discipline you can make him earn his good behavior rewards back in a limited way: I've always known the "bead jar" technique to work with many children I've known. Get an empty jar, start it out with 10 beads. Good behavior earns one or more beads, bad behavior loses one or more beads. When the jar is full, or reaches a certain mark, he gets a reward (like going out for ice cream or getting a special toy from the store).
I don't really know your most recent situation, but last I remember you've just moved into a new home, in a new city? And also, you've mentioned your husband has been glued to the computer and not exactly meeting the family's emotional needs as far as "being there." I hope things are working themselves out for you concerning those issues.
Anyway, I think Conner is probably still adjusting to the move, and perhaps he's acting out from lack of positive attention from his father? I don't know...I'm just trying to consider what might be going through his little head after all the issues and events you've posted about your family.
The only things I can think to suggest is really have a heart-to-heart with your husband first of all, because I think having a father enforce discipline alongside the mother is essential to children, *especially* boys. He needs to be more involved with his family and less with the computer games.
Secondly, I'd suggest to up the praise for Conner with *everything* he does right or does well, even everyday little things, such as brushing his teeth or putting clothes in the laundry basket or tieing his shoes. I mean, don't gush over him or anything, that'll just make you seem silly to him and maybe annoying, but rather, express your appreciation with a bit more emphasis or hype up the interest in something that's normally mundane.
Thirdly, perhaps crack down more harshly on discipline when you *do* need to do it. Maybe instead of just a time out, he also loses a favorite toy or can't participate in a favorite event that day as well. Maybe for discipline you can make him earn his good behavior rewards back in a limited way: I've always known the "bead jar" technique to work with many children I've known. Get an empty jar, start it out with 10 beads. Good behavior earns one or more beads, bad behavior loses one or more beads. When the jar is full, or reaches a certain mark, he gets a reward (like going out for ice cream or getting a special toy from the store).
He loves lightning mcqueen. That would be good......It just gets frustating Ill try that ........Thanks your always here for me my friend....
Remind him before you go to the store that you will not be buying treats today and that he is not to ask.
I would start removing privileges, whatever he loves, a certain video, toy etc.
I would start removing privileges, whatever he loves, a certain video, toy etc.
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