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5 year old showing privates

What do I do if my 5 year keeps initiating "you show me yours and I will show you mine"?  I have spoke to her about it and she isn't get the picture.  She acts like she hears but she keeps doing it and being the one to initiate it.  What can I do?
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You need to discipline her per occurrence.  There is nothing wrong with teaching your daughter boundaries through discipline.  You need to let her know that every time she chooses to engage in that behavior, you will place her in a timeout (or any appropriate discipline).  As I stated before, if this behavior continues even after being disciplined, you should have her evaluated to rule out sexual abuse as something more serious could be at stake which could be contributing to this behavior.
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Okay thank you, the first incident I spoke to her and explained that she isn't to show that to others.  Me and her dad both explained to her and on a daily basis kept reinforcing that she is not to show off her private parts.   This last incident I punished her, but have been told by my parents that I shouldn't punish for things like this.  I feel the first time its okay to talk and explain why it is not okay, but she did it again a week later and I feel like she didn't get the picture with us just talking to her.  
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Okay thank you, the first incident I spoke to her and explained that she isn't to show that to others.  Me and her dad both explained to her and on a daily basis kept reinforcing that she is not to show off her private parts.   This last incident I punished her, but have been told by my parents that I shouldn't punish for things like this.  I feel the first time its okay to talk and explain why it is not okay, but she did it again a week later and I feel like she didn't get the picture with us just talking to her.  
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5914096 tn?1399918987
Discipline her per incident.  Talking to her about it, though important, isn't discipline.  If the behavior continues even after imposing discipline, you may need to have her evaluated by a mental health professional to rule out sexual abuse.
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