5 yr old urinating in room

[alishablackwell]

my son will be 5 potty trained for over 3 yr! He had a accident in his bed 1 night about a month ago & thats when it started!!! I did not punish him 4 the accident cause he never usual has them. A month ago he went to lay down & he didnt want to & i found a wet spot in his bed i didnt punish him i just told him its ok to make a mstake & that he needs to tell mom or dad so we can clean it up! well after that he had a bad urine smell that wouldnt go away & i didnt know why well he tried to give his 1 yr old brother a toy & it smelled like urine strongly after asking him several times he said yes. then when we went thru his toy box it smelled VERY strongly so we told him we had to throw all his toys away & the box they were stored in some were savable & i explained to him that that was the wrong thing to do & we walked thru his room & he told me things that he peed on so we could get rid of it & i thought all of this was behind us & i found a week later a wet horse he had just peed on! We were in the livingroom rt. beside his room so i know he wasnt scared & the lights were on he usualy goes to the bathroom during day & morn. he wasnt asleep yet so he is not sleepwalking & i am confused to why he is doing this! nothing has changed in our house me & my husband r together we r a very well christian enviro & he is not in contact w/ anything bad & i am just so confused! i have a 1 yr old son & am preg w/ a girl now due in 28 days & he seems very happy with the new 1 coming & tries to keep his brother out of her room & if we c girl things he says my sister wants this! so i dont know what could be the problem & im very worried. he uses the bathroom regularly he dont mess in his pants & it not jus at night when asked why he does it he just says i did it last night which he calls everything last night & says he loves his toys but he want say why he feels the need to pee on them & we have found towels peed on also!

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

In dealing with this it is important that you maintain your equanimity. Regression in the presence of change is not unusual in young children. Now, it's not at all evident that the behavior is associated with the impending arrival of the baby, but it's certainly a possibility. The fact that he appears happy about the prospect does not mean very much. Overtly children can appear OK but nonetheless there is usually a good deal of ambivalence. Set a firm limit on urinating anywhere but in the toliet. But do not include wetting his bed during the night. Nocturnal enuresis is not something a child can control and he should not be punished for it. It will take care of itself over time. When i talk about setting limits, I'm referring to his deliberately urinating in his room.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Time out would be the most appropriate discipline. Have him sit quietly in a chair for ten minutes.

[alishablackwell]

ok i use to pop him but i dont anymore cause that wasnt effecting him so i make him face a wall or tell him to put his nose on the wall for a few minutes he cant stand it so am i going about the right way punishing him? i have asked him is he sad about something or angry and he says nothing is wrong! what about taking the tv away for a day if i catch him with a wet spot on the floor would that be ok this has to stop and i have been very calm about it and havent punished him but calmly talked with him in case he was emotionally stressed due to ssomething he has really bad asthma and actually gets a disability check due to the severeness of it so the smell is not healthy for him he is allergic to everything animals trees grass pollen dust fish milk i mean a lot of things and im scared this will have him back at the hospital with an episode! he seems really excited about his sister coming though and says he cant wait and will kiss my belly i am just so confused