When my now 6 year old was 3 he started preschool. some months in he started acting out, yelling hitting teachers etc... we all brushed it off. next year he was in that preschool full time days. a few months in the behavior started and increased. Saying he hated teachers calling them names, hitting etc.. Many times we had to leave work and pick him up. We started seeing a therapist for about 4 months. Unfortunately she did not see any of the extreme behavior. She saw him as having low self esteem and many anxiety. We stopped seeing her due to a lay off. Did not see any improvement. He started his kindergarten year at exactly 5 years old which may be young. His behavior did not start until months later. Smaller issues with teacher and other kids, then in feb large meltdown. Kicking hitting teachers throwing chair screaming saying they will die. He was suspended. We sent him to his room for the rest of night and next day. Made him do work. Back to room. Took away all tv time etc. He is very strong willed and does not like being told what to do at all. Does not like school or the schoolwork. Behavior continued until end of year. smaller outburst but we were working on incentives for good behavior etc. At home he does not have the epic tantrums. Or at the previous family daycare. Never had any issues there.all summer perfect. And this year the behavior starts. little things at first. hit a kid. talk back to teacher. then this week he gets suspended cuz he has another epic tantrum and hitting teachers. suspended 1 day. returns following day, bad day. school is worried cuz he keeps saying i want to die. over and over. which i do not believe he does. they ask to have him picked up. today starts school little issues then epic tantrum and suspended for hitting multiple counselors and teachers. unprovoked all this behavior. I am so exhausted by this. most of me believes that he is doing this because he thinks he can get out of school. he knows the behavior is wrong and he is a well behaved kid outside of school. the guidance counselor approached us about autism and spectrum disorder. I am more inclined to think maybe an anxiety disorder because his really bad behavior is only having to do with school. he thinks he can do what he wants all the time. developmentally he is fine. he is a little behind the kids in school because he does not want to do the work. We just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like a failure as a parent, that i did something wrong. And we feel so alone. No one that we know has had any children with this bad of a behavior issue. Hoping anyone would have any insight for me, PLEASE.