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I also have a huge concern with my 6 year old daughter. She is doing very well in school other than her occasional talking (maybe on average once a month) when she's not suppose to and missing a recess for it (which I would assume is very normal for that age). But she has this mean streak towards her friends and has no patience with them at all! She does have a huge heart and in my opinion very smart for her age, but she just can't seem to get along with children. She also has a problem with being over sensitive, we really have to watch what we say in case she blows up over it!! I mean very minor things could put her over the top.
Another huge concern I have is, she seems to just get sad and cry for no reason. This actually just started a couple weeks ago. I will ask her what is wrong and she will say "I do not know". She says, "I just get sad for no reason and can't help it". I had asked her if she get's this way at school and she said no, so I am wondering if it is because her brain is not as stimulated after school as it is during the day? I noticed on a lot of these posts that our children do academically well in school. I am wondering if this has anything to do with the problems we are all having? My daughter always has to have control in anything and everything she does with her friends, she is very bossy, and if things do not go her way, she throws a fit. Is this normal behavior for a 6 year old? She's an only child and I am so stressed because this is all new to me!
Any opinions would be helpful.
Thank you!
My road continues to be rough. Yesterday she was supposed to bring a handmade "surprise" gift to a secret pal at Brownies. What she made was beautiful and I helped her. I shouldn't have done what I did, but being so sensitive myself, I had a conversation with her about being happy with whatever she gets and that it is about giving more than taking. Well I was truly embarrassed to find out she made a huge scene in front of all the girls about how unhappy she was with the gift that was given to her and she cried about it. I was mortified!
Today, her one friend on the playground told her (and me) that her father says she is not allowed to play with my daughter anymore because she is mean. My daughter was hysterical crying when I picked her up from school and this was going on.
I am at my wits end. She knows what is right but she says she cant' help it!
i just posted a similar answer to a similar question....
my daughter, 6 years old, young first grader hzving turned 6 just before school started. has always been socially behind a bit. acedemically she is advanced. will often play on her own when friends welcome her to play with them, feels like she has no friends, is anxious about lunch in school cafeteria, recess, riding the bus---all things that take some social navigation. i have noticed a vast improvement since preschool, however, she is still at a disadvantage since she cant function as the rest of the kids do especially in the cafeteria (cries and wont eat--says she misses me) and on the bus, and at recess. would always prefer to 'play' with my husband or i instead of a friend. we are always pushing her to be with kids. WHAT CAN WE DO TO HELP HER MORE??
Your daughter clearly has some major strengths. She will need to develop more cooperation skills with peers, whether or not she becomes better (which she likely will) at putting her problems into words. Be sure to set firm limits on any expression of aggression. The message (in words as well as in behavior) should be: You may not hurt people, even if you are angry with them. Now, the group she has in school is a good idea. Such social prob;em-solvinf or social skills groups are useful. They focus on the types of things your daughter needs to learn: cooperation, talking instead of acting out, finding words for feelings, etc. You might ry to augment the weekly school group with some small social skills group in the community. Check with your local child mental health agencies, with the school psychologist, with other patrents for ideas about where you might find such a group. If your daughter has health insurance, also check with the company that manages her mental health benefit - they can tell you who their providers are in your area.
Wow! That is really good news. I hope that things do get better. The optomist in me thinks so but I feel so unsure at this point.
You made me feel better!
Thanks.
My husband and I went through alot of the same social issues with our daughter. Our daughter is also a very sweet person but rarely showed that side to others. At six she had just one friend and was not willing to make friends with anyone else and also did not want this friend to play with anyone else. She is very aggressive and stubborn. But, as she got older, it got better. She is now 9 and in third grade. We started to see a change in the second half of second grade and a BIG improvement this year. She now has multible friends that she calls and who call her to play. She still is not willing to play group sports and tends to stick to things that can be done individually but I think this will also improve as she matures. Good luck, things will get better!!!