My grandson is 6yrs. My daughter was19 rs when she had him. She was in an abusive relationship, and left. My daughter met another man who my grandson calls dad, and they had a child, now aged 2 yrs. This relationship ended 2 months ago. My daughter lives in poverty. Money is tight and she struggles to pay bills. She isnt taking care of the children and the house is dirty and very untidy. The childrens rooms often have no bedding on the beds, and you cant see the floor for dirty laundry and mess. My daughters expartner, and I were talking last week and he voiced his concerns about the children. He stated that they were smelly, and the first thing he did was bathe them and change their clothes , I do exactly the same! we discussed my daughters 'housekeeping' skills, and we both acknowldged that she isnt coping. He then informed me that his parents were considering contacting social services, as they were concerned about neglect.
The issues for my grandson are complex, he has not developed in school and is 18 months behind the others in his class. He cant read, do basic math, and is bottom in his class. He cant interact with his peers they make fun of him and he reacts in anger...or at least he did, but now he just stands alone in the play ground and stares at the floor. His speech is a problem and he doesnt pronounce his words properly and has a very distinct lisp. He gets very angry sometimes, and acts out by being destructive. My daughter has never did any reading with him at home and he has been left to his own devices. Its heartbreaking.When he is with me, I spend time with him. I read his school books, but he hates it. He says he hates school and doesnt want to go.
Right now, I have made an appointment to discuss my concerns with his teacher (at length) We did have a brief chat, and she was clearly very concerned about him.He is living with meat the moment, and I have a routine which he is settling into.