7 year old having XL bowel movements

[Mims23]

My 7 year old son has a problem pooping daily and I struggle to get him in the bathroom. Eversince he was potty trained he's had accident , he poops his underpants, I asked his pediatrician and he said not to worry just to up his fluid intake. Nothing has worked my son poops so big it clogs the toilet . Unfortunatly he smells when he poopshis pants and kids in school are brutal , my heart is on so much pain! I've tried rewards, money , candy, punishments and so on but nothing works. I will sit there with him until he poops but it's rare when there's success. He us a very smart boy who and is considered gifted, n such a sweetheart, but he us extremely insecure and a push over. So yesterday he came out of the room crying saying that his head hurt , that his thoughts hurt him , I had never seen my child like that in so much pain , it seemed like an anxiety attact, but he mentioned he wanted to hurt the kids that bully him, but he really doesnt want to . He then asked if i can take him to a doctor to fix his head. Iam torn and lost, please help me ! I know him not pooping normally has a big role in this situation , i just want my boy to be confident and happy and ofcourse happy. I always ask if anyone touches him in his private parts and he denies it he says its only his peers that treat him bad . What do i do?

[Mims23]

Thank you guys so much for the support, i will take him ASAP. And no its no poop on his pants its staining with pieces of poop.

[mammo]

When children have a lot of contipation and large stools, they can have "impacted stool."  They can still have bowel movements, but other stool will remain liquid going around the impacted stool and it seeps out, and the child cannot help this.  I don't feel he needs rewards, or anything like that, he needs a pediatric GI.  For his stool to remain so big for any length of time will also stretch his colon which will present more problems for him and you.  Please get him to a Ped. GI specialist ASAP.  Your story breaks my heart, and I went thru this exact same thing with my grandson.

[mammo]

Take your son to a pediatric gastroenterologist about this.  Your child is becoming emotionally scarred which will last a life time.  He shouldn't have to endure this.  Is he actually "pooping" his pants, or is it more like staining?

[Athena_M]

It sounds like he is getting childhood depression from everything going on at school.  He sounds so overwhelmed.  He needs to see a child psychologist or even a child psychiatrist.  Can you homeschool him?  
Big poop is supposed to be good.  Big round brown is healthy.  
Give him "whole wheat" bread to help him stay regular.  Make sure it says "whole wheat" on the label.
It is probably better if you don't sit there with him when he poops.  Let him go by himself because he has to be alone when he poops at school.  
Best wishes to you and your son.  I hope he gets the help he needs soon.

[Rucnfun]

I would try taking him to ANOTHER doctor. Don't go to just 1...because a lot of times diff ones say diff things. sounds like its been going on since he was about 2 ( you said since he was potty trained ) so doesnt sound like he's been sexually abused. i know its hard, but it doesnt sound like he enjoys it, so dont EVER punish him for going in his pants. it doesnt sound like a behavior problem, meaning i dont think that rewarding him will help him. its bigger than that, there is something going on. he said he wanted you to take him to a doctor so i would consider maybe therapy or something. i'm not saying there is anything wrong with him, but you said he is extremely insecure. and dont make it a big deal that way he wont get even more insecure, but suggest therapy as something you guys will do to help you BOTH.