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I have this girl in my class named kassie and during class she starts masterbating.She sticks her fingers down her pants and her face gets red.I feal really wierd when I see her do it.I dont know what I should do.Should i tell her to stop or just leave it alone.If you have an answer or something related can you please contact me at ***@****. thanks.
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brittani
I have this girl in my class named kassie and during class she starts masterbating.She sticks her fingers down her pants and her face gets red.I feal really wierd when I see her do it.I dont know what I should do.Should i tell her to stop or just leave it alone.If you have an answer or something related can you please contact me at ***@****. thanks.
love,
brittani
Thank you for both points of view. I have spoken with her pediatrician and he feels as though it is not an obsession for now. I am monitoring all in general and I am now opening the door to speak to her about sex in general, age appropriate of course. I think it will clear up much of the confusion. Thank you for your opinions!
I do not see any problem associated with your daughter's masturbation. The fact that she discusses it openly with you and is comfortable sharing her thoughts is positive for both of you. However, this openness appears to be giving you the impression that she is preoccupied with masturbation when in fact it seems that you are overconcerned. Tell her it's a private thing and your mother is not comfortable with her masturbating in her home. Outside of that there is no reason to be concerned. An evaluation or meeting with a psychiatrist will only serve to send the wrong message about masturbation and sex in general and could have far more negative effects than allowing her the pleasure of enjoying her own body in a natural and safe way. She's found something that feels good and is excited about it. Let her do what she's going to do and you will likely find that it is something that she enjoys without any interference with the rest of her life.
It makes perfect sense to tell her that masturbation is normal and OK, and that it needs to occur privately, with no exceptions. Now, the obsessive nature that you describe can be symptomatic of emotional disturbance, and I think you should arrange an evaluation with a mental health professional (child psychologist, pediatric psychiatric social worker, pediatric psychiatric nurse). IT's not the masturbation, but the circumsyances that surround it, that warrant the evaluation.