8 year old boy with thoughts of killing mother

[delilah222]

My son is 8 and recently came to me crying and told me that he had a thought that he was a clone trooper and shot and killed me. I was so undone by this that I did not think to ask him how he felt about this. While my husband and I were talking to him he suddenly started crying and asked me to leave the room because he just had another thought about killing me. He is EXTREMELY bright but also worries over every little thing. There had been alot of death in the family over the past several years, most recently my uncle passed away last week, could this be having an effect? He doesn't have thoughts about anyone else, only me( he spends the majority of his time with me as my husband works more nights). I have told him to try to stop worrying over everything, that he is just a little boy and he hasn't done anything in his life to be so worried or upset over. He is extremely sensitive and we went through a very rough time several years ago when he had to change schools, but his teacher was great and we worked together and he blossomed. I guess I should be happy that he is verbalizing everything to me, but it is very hard to hear. What should I do to help him? Should I be worried about his future mental health? I don't want him to have anxiety attacks or have OCD. Or am I worrying to much and should I just listen and let it go? Please help.

[glflew]

recently went through the same situation and My son was crying out for help, so we took him to our church(not very religious) because they have counseling there and have seen this behavior before.
We have since cut most T.V. programs/ video games and started playing board games where were all sitting down and talking. The thoughts have not totally gone away they are getting better and dont upset him as much as before as long as he's occupied. our pastor at our church really helped him understand that this thought is common and alot of kids go through this.
hope this help's.

[cherie3]

My son is 8 and has adhd.  We never put him on medication, until recently, and only because the teachers don' t know how to deal with a energized kid.  Two medications we tried and they both screwed my son's head up big time. He had bad thoughts from this adhd medicine.  All the doctors and pharmacys that push this crap should take it themselves and see how they like all the bad thoughts and stomaches, dizziness,  headaches. The FDA should regulate this poison.  Parents figure out natural ways, I am giving him fish oil, omega vitamin, and multi vitamin.  He is much happier off that crap.

[eniko]

Just wanted to reassure you that I think you are right, and it is indeed very tragic how many parents drug their children, even know mind altering drugs are known to be risky, they may trigger suicidal thoughts and acts. How many children have to go thru this??

[dontakedrugs]

Before some genius of a doctor or shrink recommends you drug your son with brain-altering poison  and then collects his commission from it,it might be worth taking note that  obsessive compulsive disorder as a biochemical condition doesnt exist.

Any emotional disorder that he has is learned and can be unlearned.

Before we all had a multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical industry ,corrupt to the core, based on pure lies and bought-off `experts` of their fields, people coped with their childrens disturbing behaviour.

Try patience, understanding and allowing children to grow through their phases without labelling them with some pseudoscientific convenient condition and drugging them to cure it.

Psychiatry is criminal -


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by Al Galves, PhD

With the hunger strike, MindFreedom threw down the gauntlet to biopsychiatry. The hunger strikers said,

[dontakedrugs]

Yes being killed is a frightening prospect .The person statistically  most likely to kill you however is your doctor.Its advisable to protect yourself from this serious risk to your life and your health.


  "How to stop your doctor killing you" by Vernon Coleman. This is recommended reading.

  www.Vernoncoleman.com

[Ahava]

I'll be the lone dissenter here.  If there's been a lot of death in the family recently, it makes sense that death is in your son's head for the time being.  Next time he says he had a bad thought, hug him & tell him you know he'd never hurt you and that you love him.  Ask him if he misses his uncle (or whoever it was that just passed) and talk about that if he wants to.  Tell him to blow the bad thoughts out of his head.

If it continues, I'd talk to hos doctor.  But for the moment, I'd guess it's a reaction to all the tragedies.

I'm sorry for your losses.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

This is the sort of situation that invites some investigation, but by no means should you be overly alarmed. By itself, this symptom does not indicate a specific consition, but it may represent a type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder that is characterized by obsessions. Schedule an evaluation bya child psychologist or other pediatric mental health professional. It's not the type of situation you should 'watch and wait'.

[D99G03]

This was my advice for another posting, but is seems relevant for you too ... good luck ...

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You know what? The fact that he is telling you when he has a thought and apologizing leads me to believe something is really wrong in his little head, and he can't help it, and he is srying out for YOU to help. He seems to have great rapport eith you? My son says the same type of stuff (not of killing but other things), apologies etc. when his head is spinning and/or he uncontrollably and impulsively does something due to the ADHD ... and his meds have worn off or not kicked in yet. I know that we are not talking ADHD for your son, but the inability to control is the same. My husbad has mental health issues and I although I am no professional, I have learned a lot. If it were me, just to be safe, I'd seek a mental health eval. immediately. What do you have to lose? Worse case they deem him "mentally healthy"? I can't help but think of how many times you have heard similar stories on the news and then a killing etc. happens at school or home, and then people say "there were signs" - at his gae he is old enough to actually hurt someone. I hope my 2 cents helps, I will pray for you - good luck.