Son masturbating!! PLS HELP!

[acebloodface]

I am a gamer and really love to stay on the computer playing all kind of games. One day my son was on my bed while I was playing and I could hear him making a soft sound and when I turned around , I saw him holding his gentle parts and he immediately turned around and took his hands from there and pretended he is sleeping. Pls help , he started doing this since he was 7 yrs old and thats a really unappropraite age to start doing these kind of things. My wife and I started discussing but coul not find a solution for this , and now hes 14 yrs old and still doing this and my wife started to notice a white patch on his underwear!

[rhapsodymonroe15]

This is completely normal. i had started at a young age also. its just all a matter of how comfortable you are with it. some parents can handle that its a process of life and growing up and some cant.

[snuffpuppet]

The fact that you claim you're a gamer is enough to solve this. I'm willing to guess that you and him spend a LOT of time together. He knows you pay more attention to the game than him. Chances are, he's done this several times without being caught. You need to establish a time and place for this. Do not reprimand him, rather guide him in where is safe to do this. Apologize for 'busting' him, or he will see it as his mistake and might carry guilt that could **** up his sex life forever. Just being real.

[the_expert_helper]

It is normal just ask him about it and tell him what could happen if he is addicted to it the can lose his eye sight I almost lost mine I was so scared just tell him that

[snuffpuppet]

You believe that? Why?

[Atp22]

Kids masturbating is very normal, just no one likes to talk about it.
Kids can start masturbating as young as age 2. It's not that they know what they're doing, they just know it feels good so they continue doing it.
Kids usually become very interested by their genetalia around the time they start toilet training.
If they are under 11 just make sure you have an appropriate talk with them about it. Make sure you tell them it's normal and that it's okay to do. Specify that they cannot do it around other people. Tell them that they cannot do this around parents and siblings.
If your kids is over 11, maybe introduce a toy. Something like a small vibrator will do. If you don't get them a toy, they'll just find something else to use which could be dangerous.
Make a plan with them. Come up with a way that your kid can enjoy time alone in a room if they need it.
Maybe make a word that means they want space. This will teach them how to appropriately masturbate.
Many adults don't even know this and "secrectly" masturbate around other people. This is really not okay which is why you need to teach them when to masturbate.

Hope this helps!

And don't tell them masturbating iw not okay. We're all human.

[Kylie58737]

my moms best friend daughter is masturbating at age 12 in a little bit worried for her bc i don't know if she's doing it right ?should I tell someone

[psychicRod]

Kylie58737 is there a right and a rong way to do it lolol

[ashleyjean913]

maybe it is normal at 7....though i do not think so b/c i never was curious til puberty at 11..but either way i'd say not to worry.

[psychicRod]

ashleyjean913 that's you we are all diffrent

[ticked]

My daughter always had a thing for her vagina even in diapers. I was a single mother and no one touched her because she was never alone with anyone. It was something she always did up until she was 8 yrs old. It calmed her down I think because she is a very high intense personality that can't sit still. I joke with her about it when I catch her and she just laughs. It feels good to them and she is doing it in private and is completely NORMAL.

Thanks Annie I agree with you 100%

[AnnieBrooke]

Lots of guys write in on this site about masturbating since age 6 or 7.  It is not unusual or abnormal.

[Life360_Dave]

My first time was around 11 but believe would have started much earlier but my Catholic upbringing said it was a sin. I became sexually aware around 7 or 8 for sure.

[ticked]

It is normal at 7 too. That is when they usually discover the feeling it gives them. Male and female. IT IS NORMAL.

[ashleyjean913]

it isn't normal at 7 though..your concern isn't rediculous. Though at 14 now it's normal..just let it go :) and teach him about safe sex and the concenquences because this is normal age for kids to start having intercourse these days.

[psychicRod]

ashleyjean913  isn't normal at 7 though.??
umm our privet parts from when we are born have feeling in them and the feeling is good so why wouldent you touch your self at 7 years old you dont have to know anything about sex to know it feels good when you rub your genitals real fast.

[AnnieBrooke]

It's so normal to masturbate at 14 that it is almost amusing to read your post.  Please talk to the doctor if you do not believe people on a website assuring you of this fact.  it is NOT unusual, NOT unhealthy, and NOT inappropriate as long as he is in a private place alone.  Buy him a package of tube socks so your wife does not have to look at his underwear and tell him to use them in the privacy of his room, and then say no more about it.

[ticked]

There is not reason why this is a problem or inappropriate. It is very normal and more normal that he is 14 yrs old. As long as he is doing it in private I don't see the problem. I can't express to you how normal this is and not to panic.

[psychicRod]

its normal relaxxxxx