I have an 8 year old daughter. She is in second grade. She gets straight A's and has never been in trouble in school.
I'm concerned about her social development. The thing that catches my attention most is her behavior towards strangers. She always prefers strangers over people she knows. If we go to the park with friends she will not play with the friends we came with (or her brother), she is only interested in playing with strangers. She has always done this. She is also, overly friendly towards adults, especially men. If a man speaks to her she will not leave him alone after that. Ignoring other kids or competing with them, even his own children, to get his attention.
She also makes people uncomfortable with touching. Not in a sexual way, just in a personal space way. Again, it is most obvious with grown men, I guess because they are the most uncomfortable with it. But even with kids her own age. She will hug someone she just met, and it's clear they don't want to be hugged. She even makes me uncomfortable sometimes. Rubbing my arm during dinner, or sitting way too close on the couch even after I've asked her to back up. If she is within arms length she is touching you. We even have a family friend who has said he can't be around her anymore because she makes him so uncomfortable.
She doesn't have any close friends. I remember being 8 and having sleep overs and best friends, but she has never even played with another kid after school. We have tons of kids in our neighborhood but she doesn't seem interested in playing with them. She is very bossy when she is playing with other kids.
A couple more things...
She seems to have trouble understanding how things relate to one another. For example, she has a lot of trouble with money, that 4 quarters equal one dollar.
She still ***** her thumb at night, and would do it during the day until recently. The only reason she stopped during the day is because she started twirling her hair. She just twirls and twirls. The sides of her hair are always all crazy because they have been twisted million times. She will even get both sides going when she is really stressed or zoned out.
She just doesn't seem to want to grow up. She says she wishes she was still a baby. She often says how she wishes she could go back to kindergarten or how better her 3 year old brother has it. She loves it when you do stuff for her, even if she is perfectly able to do it herself. For example, her grandma still gives her baths, like a little baby. And she loves it.
One last thing, her physical strength is very low. She doesn't ride a bike because she can't peddle it. She can peddle once it's going but she can't start it. She is uncoordinated. Her run is awkward and slow. She gets beat by at least half the distance when she races with another kid her age.
Am I making too much of this stuff? Or do you think something could be wrong?