my 4 yr old is like addicted to his nana and he tells me all the time that he hates me and his daddy and that he doesnt want us, then when it hurts my feelings and i try to calm him down he asks "why? do you hate me mommy? are you mad at me?" then proceeds to tell me he loves his "nana" and wants her. He was my first born i was 18 and had a csection so my mom helped as much (first born boy) as possible with him because i couldn't hardly do any thing and my hubby was ALWAYS at work well eventually my husband started struggling trying to support me,himself, and our newborn (at the time) with a fast food restaurant job only getting 7.25 a hr and about 36 hours a week. getting paid every other Monday and I went to work at 6 weeks post partum as soon as the doc said "okay" and then I started working also non-stop my son then literally might as well say lived with my mom, she spoiled him to her bed because she co slept with him like she did with me and my 2 siblings and now he is 4 yrs old we literally just moved into our own place like 2 days ago and he is not liking it one bit but im a stay at home mom now with him, our 16 month old daughter, and pregnant with our 3rd (another boy) due in July. and he gets so bad when he doesnt get to see,stay, or talk to his nana that he kicks me in the belly, punches me, pulls my hair, bites, scratches and headbutts then tells me he hates me and his daddy that he doesnt love us nomore (which really hurts) and that he doesnt want us that he wants his nana. which all the stress and trauma to my belly has set on preterm labor a few times and my husband (poor thing) got to see and feel what i have been going through with him we went to my mom's to get some more of our stuff out today and take a shower (because our new place had a water leak) and she left us at her house to go to town with my aunt and he threw his tantrum and ran away from home literally running after my aunt's vehicle down the road (thank goodness she lives in the counrry and he knew to stay out of the actual road because my husband ran after him and by the time he finely caught up to our son he was about a quater mile from the house. (still in site of course) but he then started pinching,bitting and hitting his daddy when he picked him up to bring him back to the house. and he said he hated us. i don't know what to do about it tho, I'm scarred to death dcs (child services) will come out on us because the way he screams and acts (he told me one day because I made him go to town with me that he didn't know me and was screaming and saying "I DON'T KNOW U, I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE" and I don't want to loose my baby I mean what mom would wants that? does any1 know what i should do? iv tried keeping him from her and it makes it worse plus I don't want to hurt her. that's my mom but i cant handle this separation anxiety between the two. my mom has it too with him and she cries and can't sleep at night nomore but she doesn't want nothing to do with my 16 month old daughter "because she isn't her baby, she's not like her child, and she doesn't like her nana" but yet my daughter also screams and crys for her nana but it doesn't matter to my mom as long as its not her grandson (my 4 yr old son). please some 1 if u have advise please share please no rude comments because I am pregnant and at risk for preterm labor still so really don't need the extra added stress.