Well, he's perhaps not quite normal, but I doubt that he has ADHD. You can't turn it off and on at that age. If he can control himself at school and get decent grades, then he can do so at home. The problem is that he is bright and has learned how to control you. He has learned that the anger and and demands get him what he wants. This can be stopped, but it will take about 3 weeks of very consistent action on your part.
I suggest you get the book - "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark for a detailed list of actions.
Thank you I will look for that book, He is bright and yes you are right he does control every situation. I am on the hunt for that book. thanks again
I have an 8 year old and his school seems to be focused mainly on reaching the hightest TAKS (Texas Assessment of Knowledge and Skills) scores (which the begin taking in 3rd grade, starting in K so they can keep their "commended" status. He is now in 3rd grade. Ever since day one in that school my son has been sent home with notes stating that he does not "participate in class". He does not test well and does not focus in class. After I saw his classroom(s), from K-3rd (he now has 2 classrooms in 3rd grade) it's not hard to understand why condsidering every square inch of the tiny rooms are covered with some brightly covered item (i.e. Mickey Mouse, ABCs, animal pics and so on). There are appxly. 25 kids per teacher. When my son returns home from school I go over what was covered that day in school with him and his mind may wonder. I keep him on track, because it has been a long day, and he DOES KNOW the subject material. My son, as well, gets blamed for things he has not done in school, he was just too shy to speak up and tell the teacher(s) who really did it. He has been bullied be both teachers and students to the point where my husband and I had a conference with his teachers and principal last year. The principal all but said he needed to be on meds, just like her, now grown, son. His teacher this year, one month into the school year, said the same thing!!! MY OPINION ... the principal and teachers are lazy and don't want to take responsibility for what is actually going on here. My eight year old does not need to be zombified to accomidate 24 other students, teacher and principal just so he can score higher on his TAKS so the school can get more money from the state. BTW, he comes home with fair grades, yet his report cards are always A/Bs. Something is going on with our school system. I know that my son's mind drifts and he needs to be kept on track, but to quote John Candy in "Uncle Buck" ... "I don't think I want to know a six-year-old who isn't a dreamer, or a sillyheart. And I sure don't want to know one who takes their student career seriously. I don't have a college degree. I don't even have a job. But I know a good kid when I see one. Because they're ALL good kids, until dried-out, brain-dead skags like you drag them down and convince them they're no good. You so much as scowl at my niece, or any other kid in this school, and I hear about it, and I'm coming looking for you!"
If by any chance your son has ADD or ADHD, he does not have to go on meds. However, there are many techniques to help him focus in class and at home. I suggest you buy the book, "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley. It will not only help you figure out if he has something like ADD/ADHD, but will give you lots of valuable tools to help him if he does. It also will show you ways to force the school to accommodate (instead of ignoring) him.
If there is a "Children's Hospital" near you, you can call them and see if they will test your son for ADHD or ADD. There is also "ADHD/ADD Comb. Disorder" That is what my 8yr. old son has. Sometimes the hospitals will be doing tests for new medication's. The tests and medication is free and sometimes you even get paid for your time and travel. Good luck and best wishes!! -Marebear74
I forgot to tell you. Alot of times kids can just be kids. That is the way i thought, but when it affects their school work and their behavior at school. That's when it became a concern for us. That is when the doctors get concerned also.
I had wished that I even knew about ADD/ADHD when my son was in elementary school. He's 20 now so at the time I didn't know anything about it. Unfortunatly, he wasn't diagnosed with ADD until he had failed out of the 6th grade. By then, his need to be the "class clown" had worn down his teachers and his classmates and caused him to miss or be unable to retain important learning and social skills. With the help of his medication and assistance from a caring staff at a new school, he did a complete 360. My son was still himself but he was able to curb his complusive behavior and excell. He is in college now, but I can see where his troubles with focus in elementary school have carried on to his adult life and he has to work harder than his classmates because of some of the basic learning he missed out on. My advice is if you are concerned that this may be an issue, you really should look into it. The sooner the better.
Gosh, that must have been so hard to know some thing is going on but, not know what. Even harder to not be able to help your baby boy when you see him going down hill. I had to get on my son's doctors from thew time he was 4 till 8yrs. They say they don't like to really think about this disorder till at least 6 yrs. of age. It's just so needless to wait so long just to diagnose something you know is wrong. And the heartache and emotional toll it took on him is very sad and was so hard to watch. Plus even after having an IEP meeting for him at his school they still left him in a class w/ a teacher who had no idea how to help him and really treated him bad in front of the whole class. She put a circle of tape around his desk and called him a behavior problem because, he could not sit still and would try to go help everyone else in class. While the rest of the other children went to the rug for story time he was made to stay at the back of his classroom in his desk. Made him feel like an outcast. I walked in and saw that, well let's just say i think they all had a different idea of who i was. Plus i found out he was sitting in "In school suspension" with kids 2 x's his age; 3 out of 5 days of school. No wonder my baby was'nt learning anything. Just to let everyone know, if you have any problems with you child's school not teaching them properly, look up a group called "TEAM CHILD". They are great, promise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well... I am on here for basicly the same reason as everyone else... My son will be 8 tomorrow... He is extreamly smart, makes honer roll, does his homework etc... Yet when it comes to rules and impulse, he seems to loose himself in his acts. I tell him to not to do something, on first opertunity, he does it... I ask him to do something and get only greif. He gets over emotional, angry, sad, hyper. It seems everything he is feeling is extream one way or the other. He cant get along with other kids, there for he has really no friends to speak of. I've tried rewarding him when he is cooperative, When he misbehaives I have tried everthing from revoking privilages, grounding, talking with him. I've finally, after roughtly 6 years of this intense behavior, put him into councling. They put him on a very mild antidepressant... Which barely seems to make a difference. Just yesterday, while in the kitchen cooking dinner, he snuck out, took the neighbor boys bike and rode down the road. I went looking for him not even 5 min. later and he was about 2 blocks away! This behaivior SCARES ME! I've always been about trying to teach him thru words and experience, yet yeilding no results... He will make the same mistake over and over and over again. And when asked why he did it, knowing the consiquences, he replys, I dont know... I'm just dunb, why did you have me if all I do is stress you out... Horrible things... I try to go easy on him, yet now I feel stressed to a level that I'm not sure how much patience I have left for his behavior. He is such a lover... Hugs and kisses all the time, sweet little guy, yet his imlplulsivness and emotions seem to rule him... Any thougths on how to deal with this?
I have one very important question. Do his teachers see the same problem. Forget the grades - at this grade level a very smart kid will coast. Does he break their rules? Does he get into trouble at recess? Does he interrupt the teacher? Did he have a bad time at the start of the year and then adjusted to school and is now not having these problems?
I am so happy to read these posts and know I am not the only person in the "wondering what is going on with my son" stage. My son has always been an extrememly bright boy... but he has a hard time expressing himself and is very impulsive when he doesnt get his way or is upset about something. In school he is fine, does not get in any trouble.. the teachers say he is very well liked... he actually one the award for being the student of the month. He has a lot of friends, but he is only 7. I worry as he grows up other kids are not going to tolerate these impulsive behaviors he exhibits. In Kindergarten I had him going to the school psychologist to work on his impulse reactions and the psychologist said he was doing much better. This year he did not continue with the class because they said he was fine. I wonder if he is ADD or ADHD because at home also he has a hard time following simple directions and tunes my husband and I out. He almost seems lazy, but we realize he is zoning us out. If he does have ADD or ADHD we would not medicate him, so does anyone have suggestions on how to cope? help him? THANKS
I think the key words here are "extremely bright" and is "only 7". Kids who are young and very bright have minds that work faster than their common sense. They don't yet have the maturity to be more diplomatic. Its pretty much a "me" generation kind of thing. However, they do quickly learn what works and adapt to it.
It sounds like he has figured out what works at school (and sad to say for you) what works at home. I think that he is not so much zoning you out as he has learned that it is a easy way to get what he wants. Honestly none of the things you have mentioned are ones that would suggest ADD. It does suggest a very sharp kid (immature) who is bending his surroundings to his needs.
Suggestions: First, do enjoy him. This is going to be a ride for you. He will definitely get better as he matures. However, he will also become more calculating (dare I say sneaky).
You need to be very clear in your expectations. Both you and your husband need to always present a unified front (so he can't play one against the other). If you do punish him on the spur of the moment - he will probably use that to his advantage. Use immediate timeouts for a few more years (get "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark. for very effective ways to use this) and then when he breaks rules - maybe around age 10 - tell him that you will decide what to do and let him know the next day.
And you know the experience of school psychologists and teachers are not just for kids. Use their expertise to help you. Chances are his teachers have also had very bright kids. I was fortunated enough to have had a lot of them. They taught me a lot and hopefully I was able to do the same for them. Point being - get their suggestions too. Hope this helps. Best wishes.
SUGAR SUGAR SUGAR is hugely the culprit in my opinion we are dealing with hypoglycemia on many levels when their poor little bodies do not know what to do with all the refined sugar, white flour, white pasta they ingest etc. etc. The adrenaline kicks in and the blood sugar levels go wacko!! So.... less sugar and a really good multi-mineral vitamin (with NO food coloring) and hugely calcium magnesium before bed is helping immensely with my 7 year old boy. It turns his into an attentive, sweetheart:) I am a stay at home mom who has dealt with all levels of hyper, hyper, hyperactivity in my boy. (ADHD child)
hyperglycemia is one thing. Sugar has no proven link to ADHD - see myth #4
However, I agree completely about a good diet. And by the way, if sugar is the main culprit, I would be seeing my doctor about that.
I agree and believe that you are a very intellectual mother and teacher!! I have an 8 year old son who since the first grade has been in trouble at school for excessive talking and playing around. I on the other hand do not have hardly any behavior problems with him at home, he is kind, friendly, loving, and gets along with everyone. He does most of his homework on his own without help, and sits very quietly while doing it. His teacher suggested moving him up a grade last year since he is an honor role student and was at a fourth grade reading level at the age of 7 to see if maybe his problem was from being bored with class work that was not challenging enough for him, but when moved to the next grade it was decided that his maturity level was not that of the other kids so he was moved back. He often misses the "20" minute recess time at school for bad behavior, which I believe just adds to the endless energy that all kids have. I work as a substitute teacher and I see different school's discipline policies and classroom rules all the time. I have seen few that actually allow kids to be kids and ones who take the appropriate steps to teaching kids how to use self control.
I believe that too much is expected out of elementary kids when it comes to having to sit in a classroom for 8 hours a day with barely any activity time, and teachers wanting them to be silent all day. Kids are kids, they are playful, silly, talkative, fidgety, curious, rebellious at times and still trying to learn and figure everything out. I am tired of teachers and schools wanting 7 and 8 year old children to act like 12 year old kids!!
Ugh, One of the things that frustrates me with schools is when they take away recess from kids for being too energetic in class. The irony is that recess and running around/physical activity is exactly what a lot of kids need to stay calm in school. They defeat their own purpose.
I think if a teacher was complaining about the things you mention, I'd talk to them about other methods of working on it besides curtailing the outlet to their energy. In fact, perhaps if he had short breaks in which he could do something physical in the classroom, it would help him overall. Even little things like erasing a chalk board (do they still use those, lol) or a dry erase board can give some calming input to the nervous system.
School is an exciting place. Kids can get hyped up. I work with my kids to understand that school is the 'work place' and I will set up lots of fun socializing with their pals outside of school. And I do. It helps a little.
I have two boys, one does have sensory integration disorder and school is where we would see more problems than at home. But these are things I work on with both of my kids.
I know that when I'm in my 8 year olds classroom, I do my best to help the teacher bring down the 'chaos' level as it can be a bit much. I do understand that kids do need to maintain themselves in the classroom in a respectful way so that everyone can learn. But teachers would be wise to understand that movement, shorter sessions for lessons but many of them, and keeping the material lively would benefit all including themselves when they have a better behaved class.
He sounds perfectly normal and has his own unique personality.
Ya, the problem is the teacher and not the child. Having been both an elementary teacher and principal, I can say that some teachers just can't deal with an intelligent child. Be glad the upward movement did not work out!
I have found that most of the times bright kids will figure out what works and doesn't and will adapt. But I do agree that to miss a recess is a hardship.
I would try and find out specifically what he is doing that drives his teacher nuts and then work on that skill at home. Notice I did not say punish him! I said work on the skill he needs at home. There will be a carry over to school. If you can be more specific - I may be able to give you some suggestions.
my question: given the numbers of children on adhd medication, are his peers not acting like that because THEY are medicated? I would find out. 7 year old boys as far as I'm concerned are supposed to be active. Setting bounderies is important as well.
My thoughts exactly , the side effects from some of these drugs are horrendous ...Children are supposed to be active I dont believe in all these disorders ...
you are righ .my son is 7 yr old and he cant stay still,he talk alot and he has truble making frinds..he do not listens to me at all..but when he was little baby he was super cute and happy baby .,never got sick ,good eater ,good sleeper..zero troble kid..but now he is growing with behavior problams..though he help me alot in house hold chores but he runs in the mall,push in the partys.he is very emotional sweet boy who crys while watching movie.but he has no friends..i googeld alot and thought he has adhd problam ..but my hubby was angry with me he said i am not going to the doctor. he is energetic little boy..he has lots of energy all kids are like that ..i will never give him any medication for his behaviour ..good part is my son is super inteligent,he help his 6 year old brother with home work and all..so we will give him love and find a way to make him understan than medication.
There is a lot more to dealing with ADHD then medication. If you do think that he might have ADHD, I suggest you buy the book (its only about $10 on Amazon) "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley. It will give you lots of non-medicine ways to help your child. It also will help you decide if he might have ADHD and tell you how to get help from the schools if it is needed.
My 6 yr old son has many of these same issues. None of them were a problem until he started school. Now behavior has started to be a problem at home too. It's just escalated weekly since school started and started to carry over. He has a wonderful, patient, caring teacher and also a para for his kindergarten room who is also a lovely woman with 4 children of her own. I know the problem doesn't stem from how is he treated in school, but it's just getting crazier and crazier. He punched another kid at latchkey! He's hilarious and adorable and loving, still sits on my lap and cuddles.
The first round of school testing placed him in the 90th percentile, so of course he's smart. All these kids with behavior issues are smart it seems. My crazy little genius got kicked out of kindergarten yesterday for bad behavior!
What is going on with these kids? How was most of this not an issue 30 yrs ago when we went to school? I feel it's going to end up being something we've all eaten, pesticides, food coloring, artificial vanilla flavor, (I don't really think it's the vanilla), I just keep wondering what is making our children so different in this decade?
You might want to visit his class and see how the kids are disciplined. Sometimes, what the teacher or aide does is not very effective (especially if it is a large class). If all they do is say NO, a sharp kid will eat them alive.
Did he go to a preschool or is this is his first year in a large school/class setting? Also curious if you have a younger child at home (say between one and two) as sometimes this can also cause some attention getting things at home.
Finally, you can't do much about what is going on at school. But you can control things at home. But I am not sure what is going on at home. There is a good chance that what he is doing is not due to what he has eaten (always slightly possible), but rather more to being a fairly sharp 6 year old boy who is trying to control his little world.
Thank you for posting ur story ! Im having around the same problems with my son to.. He just started wrestling ,an he is the one that wanted to go into it so im not thinkin that he dont like it ,but I have been watching him at practice an he has been kinda in another world when it is time to be learning something ! I catch his attention an remind him to listen ,an he will for just a sec an then go straight back to looking around or talking to a friend ect . He has been getting in trouble in school for chewing on pencils ,erasers,ect im just really gttn concerned ! Also he is simular at home an around friends with not listening an not knowing when to stop acting crazy ! Please someone help me ! Ive thought about checkin with a doc about.adhd but I really wanted meds to be my last resort so if anyone has any natural
Remedies to try please let me kno asap thanks ,stephanie
How old is he?
First, you can't even think about natural remedies if you don't know what the problem is.
Second, meds are always your choice (and there are many), getting help for your son should not be your choice. There are many behavioral strategies to try and many ways that a school can help your son if he does get diagnosed with ADHD! But you don't know what to do unless you know what the problem is.
I repeat - no one can force meds on him.
Also, he does show some signs of sensory integration disorder. That is not treated with meds, but by an occupational therapist.
So I have included two sites to check out. The first is for SIDS and the second is for ADHD.
And finally, I have seen lists of things in the diet to avoid. But, in the 6 or more years on this site - I have never had a parent report any natural remedy that helped (nor have I seen any research to support that). And I should add - that like meds, your child would need much more help then some magical pill.
Haven't read the report you mention but a British medical study in 2011 took 100 children with ADHD of various levels, (all statemented) and found 60% of them had a beet sugar intolerance, amongst others, but beet was the highest common factor. When removed from their diet, all children's level of ADHD reduced significantly. My son's behaviour has also improved considerably since removing it from his diet, and school pronounced it a miracle. Although we still have someway to go yet with his behaviour, beet sugar continues to be avoided. There is bound to be a mineral / trace element factor involved in this difference of sugars and wish someone would establish what this is, as Cane sugar seems to be fine.
Thats interesting I have never heard of that. You don't have a link to the study do you. I would love to find out more. I have seen lots that show no sugar link to hyperactivity - but nothing that ever looked at the type of sugar. The idea that you could make anything good for you out of beets has always amazed me.
Anyway, the nice thing about diet changes is that it is something that is can be done and modified till it works or it doesn't. Thanks for the post.
I am looking for a supplement you decribed for my 7 yr old grandson the teacher says hes very smart but can t stay focased really concerned
Like nearly everyone on this very long list, I have a 7 yr old son who has always been a bit of a handful. He is very clever, funny, kind, loving, and can be quite vulnerable at times. However he has since moving to Texas from the uk been getting into trouble more and more regularly at school. He gets easily distracted and likes to mess around and play fight with other boys but when he is told off, gets angry and struggles to control his reaction. This gets him into trouble with teachers who consider his reaction or in some cases attempts to argue with the teacher and explain the situation from his perspective disrespectful and inappropriate. He also gets into trouble for deciding he does not want to join in with certain activities in class like dancing or singing. Every time he reacts badly he is sent out of class and now he has been sent home! We talk with him daily about the right way to react and not to answer back when told off, but this makes no difference. If you shout at him or get frustrated he cries and tell you you are hurting his feelings so we talk calmly to him and try to get him to understand the impact of behaviour and that it is not his choice what to do at school. We are talking to the school psychologist and trying to make a difference but really do not know what the problem is or how to help him stop this. Help!
I have two autistic daughters and im starting too see traits in my two sons very emotional wont concentrate have too repeat questions get obsessive about one thing like things done a particular way need an crave routine is anyone else experiencing this ?
He has had a huge change in his life and - wow - Texas? Thats an even bigger change. He is only 7 and doesn't have the tools to express himself. I would think the school would be a bit more understanding. You might try talking with his teacher and telling her what a change it has been for your son. Maybe she could find some other way to work with him.
Has he been in school since early Sept. or has he just recently been enrolled? It makes a difference.
You might try some books by Adolph Moser who is a psychologist that runs a holistic based youth center for kids with challenges. Here are some of the titles-----------"Don't Pop Your Cork On Monday" and "Don't Rant and Rave on Wednesday" and "Don't Feed the Monster on Tuesday" and "Don't Despair on Wednesday" and "Don't tell a Whopper on Thursday" and "Don't Fall Apart on Friday" and "Don't be a menace on Sundays". These are part of his emotional impact series and are written well with good illustrations
And, I think, he really needs a friend if possible. See if there is any one that you can invite over for a playdate.
If he did not have these problems in the UK, then a lot is definitely due to the change.
They could just be repeating what they observe from your daughters. If you have concerns definitely talk with your doctor. The sooner it is dealt with the better for the child.
This all looks so familiar. My son Logan is 6 yrs old. He's having so much trouble in school. It started in PreK not paying attention not taking naps and they'd put him in the hall alone :( Now in kindergarten he has trouble listening to direction, paying attention, he makes alot of loud noises repetitively when he gets annoyed or confused. Logan is so smart and sweet most of the time but really has this agressive other side to him. I hate to see him struggling so much. And the teacher is no help because she just gives him bad colors and sends him to the principals office. Our kids are not programed robots they are not all going to act the same that doesn't make them bad kids. I've wondered if Logan should be diagnosed with something I dont know if that would help or not. Maybe they'd try to understand and work with him differently? Good luck everyone. Good or bad ,rotten or sweet they are our children we must love them unconditionally and treat them with respect and patience.
As a retired elementary school principal, I can't believe that a teacher would be sending a kindergarten child to the principals office rather than working with the child. Have you ever visited the classroom to see what is going on?
Anyway, I also am the CL here - http://www.medhelp.org/forums/ADD---ADHD/show/175
; Why not post here and we will have a discussion about the possibility of ADHD as he does show some of the symptoms.
Oh, when did he turn 6?
my sons behaviour has gone down hill in the last 2 yrs. he is very aggressive towards me and his dad he does act out at scool but mostly at home he throws things and when they break he say i didn't mean it. i went to the docs last november about this and they have sent a letter to the hospital but we still waiting 4 a reply.. yesterday he pushed one of his teacher and has been given internal exclusion which he doesn't seem to care i am very worried about my 2 daughters safety when he does have one of his moments. should i get in contact with the doc again and demand that she does something about it as i am at the end of my tether with him.... when he is gd he very gd...
Don't be so quick to label your kids with ADD. I was the same with my son at first, but the truth is we are teaching our bright kids to divide their focus and attention all the time. This learned behaviour is them played out in the classroom and other activities. Your kid may just have learned to divide his attention across a multitude of activities, or expect a wide range of information from a number of sources.
We looked at home for the culprits - us! we had the TV on during breakfast and dinner, and were still asking questions like 'Have you packed your school bag or how was your day. Once we switched dinner to the dinner table and had the first 5mins of the meal no talking, our children were better able to focus on the activity in hand only, instead of dividing their attention constantly.
Calm down. don't beat yourself up.
really look at what is going on in your lives. When you are with your son, be present with him - don't make dinner, don't have tv or radio on. Demonstrate to him what it is like to be present, to listen to hear and to reflect.
Once you model this behaviour and these skills, he will follow. It will start with you.
I went for a walk with my son along the beach today. The walk took around 45 mins. He basically had one sentence that lasted that entire time, barely pausing for breath. I think sometimes they just want to talk. My job for the whole walk was just to listen.
It was a great day. :O)
I personally feel that it is so helpful to identify when underlying things are going on and to address them. Wow, did it change my son's world. He has sensory integration disorder. Labeling is one thing some mention as 'bad' but I feel so differently. It is how I understand what my boy needs to feel good. Early intervention makes all the difference in the world and I hope no one is ever afraid to do this for your child. good luck to all
Sorry I missed your post. How old is your son? How is he doing grade wise in school? Oh, and how old are your daughters?
This is exactly the same same thing that is happening with our son. I will give it a try.
He needs the speech issue addressed first and foremost. That in itself will cause some anger issues from a very young age. It makes it hard for them to make friends and they often get put down for not being able to speak well. It really hurts their self-esteem.That would be my first priority. Speech therapy does WONDERS and its free through the school even as young as 3 years old. They do not have to be school-aged. There is a program if they are less than 3 where they will come to your house and work with him. I don't remember what it's called, but it is also free. He also needs some type of goal chart and whenever you catch him doing something good, whatever behaviors you want him to have, you put a sticker on the chart and at the end of the week he should get a reward for however many stickers he has. The more stickers, the bigger the reward. He needs firm boundaries and consistent consequences. My first son was just like you described.
A very nice reply, Unfortunately, its to a very old post. You have to carefully look at the dates on these things. How did you run across the original post?
Thank you so much for this comment. My son just turned 8 on Dec.29th, he is in the first grade. He is the most kind , loving kid. He is in title one, for reading. I thought he was doing pretty good, until I got a note of concern from the teacher. Her and the title one teacher have noticed some concerns that he is catching on to some things and not a lot of the other things. They are sending a list of things to watch him for survey they call it. Looking for signs of adhd. He daydreams a lot, I talked to him about it, and he knows he does it, also I help one day a week in the classroom, and it is a wild crazy class. The teacher is good, but, she talks really fast, it is all so fast pace, it is a perocial school, would he have better luck in a public school? I left out, he has a huge imagination. Help! I want the best for him,and it would crush me if he turned into a zombie. Also, he is very well behaved, respects, stays still, can talk loud sometimes, he is always, always positive. What do I do?
First, the only way he could turn into a zombie is if he has a doctor and parents who don't communicate and also don't understand what to look for.
Yes, unfortunately kids do get overdosed. And that is always the fault of lack of communication/information between the doctor and the parent. Medication done correctly will make the situation better not worse.
Now having said that, there is no way to know yet if he has ADHD.
Typically a public school is much better at dealing with issues like ADHD. The parochial schools typically just don't have the resources or experience to do so - but there are exceptions.
So what do you do? You make sure that you understand what ADHD is. And if he turns out to have ADHD - you make sure that you become the expert in it. Because it is really you that will make a difference in his life.
So, do look at the survey to understand what they are looking for.
Here is a link on the different types of ADHD and what to look for.
My bigger concern is that he is a very old first grader and he is behind in reading. What happened to get him into first grade so late? I am guessing that his K teacher had him held back? This may be more then ADHD. There could be some real learning problems and a parochial school is not the best place for that. Given his age, he should be getting lots of extra help. I think that a public school would be the best place for that.
My son is going to be 6 years old in 2 months. He was having hard time listening. In fact there were times when he would run on the road in zebra crossing(when he was excited when his friend was around) - we had given strict instructions and he waits before zebra crossing nowadays. Now, I see that in school, he sits quietly when he shouldn't move, but doesn't listen to teacher. If she says raise your hand if..., he would simply raise his hand without listening to if clause. Same thing I see happening in basketball class. He is not listening to instructions like, "bounce the ball, touch as many circles as you can and count them". He only bounces the ball. He doesn't bother to touch the circles at all, leave about counting! When kids are asked to throw ball to each other, when my son is waiting for his turn, he doesn't stand still, he keeps dancing. What should be done for my son's listening skills/taking instructions?
It is very common for 6 year old boys to not listen and move a lot. And he is a very young 6. Hopefully he is in K and not first grade. Big question I guess is how does he compare to other boys of the SAME age?
In basketball class, thats a tough skill if you have never done it. Practice with him. Start easy and slow and slowly work up. This can be done at home.
Chances are he will be more attentive if he gets a chance to run around before practice.
I have an 8 year old daughter who shows some of the same signs. she plays soccer and basketball she doesn't have any problem concentrating on her sports. She does how ever have a lot of problems concentrating on everyday tasks like house hold chores and school work. I try to make her chores simple and to the point. not giving her multiable things to do at the same time. Like I will tell her to pick up toys in a small area and put them in the toy boxes. She will start to do the task and not even a min later she is off in another room doing something else. When she comes home from school I give her an after school snack because she is usually hungry. Once she has had her snack It is Homework time. She starts her work and then her mind starts to wonder. She will get up wonder around the house, she will start talking about animals and why she likes them or about the dirt outside. Often when she is talking she will change subjects mid sentence. I can keep her sitting and not wondering around if I sit next to her and don't place my attention anywhere else. But as soon as I move she is up and about. I have four children and I do give her time to talk to me each day and have a conversation with me. I have tried different approaches to after school and homework. Like playing for 30 mins before she starts homework in hopes that maybe she has pent up energy from sitting at school. She still does the same. At school she makes good grades. She doesn't get into trouble. Her teacher says she is sweet, smart and caring. Last year in school she did get called on a lot for talking in class and helping others with there work because she always finished quickly. This year she doesn't talk as much in class. But she rushes through her work. This year she don't seem to care if the answers she gives on her tests are wrong. She always loved reading and I always encourage her love for Reading by getting her lots of books. She read over 200 hundred books when she was in Kindergarten and has Read just as many every year since. But the past nine weeks her Reading grade has dropped six points. and she wont hardly finish one book before moving on to another or she will try and read two or three books at the same time. I have tried to get her to only read one book at a time so she can focus on that one story and know what is going on. her focus is going else where and I'm not sure what to do. I dont really want her on medication. And am open to any advice that I can try to help her focus more. I dont give her soda often usually two to three times a month. she drinks mostly milk and maybe a glass of coolaid a day. I give her candy once a week. other than Halloween then she has candy for as long as it last her. She eats good and has no known allergies to any foods. She sleeps well at night sometimes she stays awake a little late. But that is rare. I have not had her tested for ADD or ADHD. I was told I had ADHD when I was her age and was put on medication in which my mom had me taken off of very quickly because it made me Zombie like and Loose a lot of weight which I was small anyways. I know medication helps for some and some it is just not for. I would like to try all I can first to try to help her without the use of medication and keep that as a last resort. Any advice. thank you..