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Adolescent foot fetish
My grandson has a foot fetish, I know they say they can't have a fetish at this age (4), it started at 3, but I don't know how else to describe it. He likes to rub your feet, he will beg to rub your feet under the blanket's then try to place your foot between his legs. Or he will lay down with his head on your foot/feet and rub his face back and forth on your foot like your foot is a stuffed animal or something, and if you're not watching carefully he will lick your foot. We have to make him promise not to lick our feet if we let him hold our foot/feet. Every time he asks we try getting his mind off of feet by saying," no sweetie my feet are dirty." It usually works but he usually asks why aren't our feet clean or why don't we go clean our feet.
We are not really sure what to do at this point he is going on 5 now?
We are not really sure what to do at this point he is going on 5 now?
Licking feet is always bad . I'm 36 and I've had foot fetishes my entire life . I knew people wouldn't accept it so I would dig on feet , lay on them putting my genitals on them , and etc. I was asked by a handful of women if I liked their feet. I lied and always said I didn't and that it was an accident. I would still continue my behavior because it aroused me. Many of my teachers and other women knew what I was doing and didn't care.
My advice is that if he's fixating on your feet than get comfortable because if he can't do it around you then he will find another woman who's feet he loves and he will attach to her. I was a teachers pet because teachers constantly found me under them laying on their feet . It's a form of arousal and submission. I still have a foot fetish but I learned to respect people's space. I'm not a little boy anymore that can simply lay on an adult woman's feet.
You can't medicate or therapy your way out of this. If you reject him he will find another woman to bond with and believe it or not many women like little boys laying on their feet . Many women like boys putiing their feet on their crotches and many women like boys straddling their feet when their legs are crossed .
My advice is that if he's fixating on your feet than get comfortable because if he can't do it around you then he will find another woman who's feet he loves and he will attach to her. I was a teachers pet because teachers constantly found me under them laying on their feet . It's a form of arousal and submission. I still have a foot fetish but I learned to respect people's space. I'm not a little boy anymore that can simply lay on an adult woman's feet.
You can't medicate or therapy your way out of this. If you reject him he will find another woman to bond with and believe it or not many women like little boys laying on their feet . Many women like boys putiing their feet on their crotches and many women like boys straddling their feet when their legs are crossed .
He absolutely has a foot fetish, just teach him about public and private activities and don't let him play with your feet if you think it's not good or he won't stop licking them. I was like that when I was younger and eventually he'll learn how to keep those urges private.
You might begin by talking to him about what "public" and "private" mean, not about fetishes but just about the two terms in general. Then once he has shown he understands those words, tell him that doing things with feet the way he asks to, would be considered "private" behavior.
Unfortunately, unlike a kid who has discovered how to masturbate, you can't just go to the next step and tell him he has to do this private thing in his own room with the door shut (I have never heard of a foot fetishist who is turned on by his OWN feet, he would likely need a partner, or at least a doll). But you might direct him to his room when he gets into the mood to touch others' feet, and see if this puts his thoughts in a different direction.
I suggest this because some kids will stop an unwanted sexual behavior if they have to go away from everyone else to do it. (A friend's daughter would straddle the sofa arm and 'hump' it when she was quite young. She stopped when her mom told her she had to do such things in her room, not because she couldn't do it in her room, but because she would rather be with her family out where the fun was, than hump the sofa arm).
One could hope that your grandson might outgrow his obsessiveness about this as he grows up and finds other parts of women's bodies to obsess over that are more socially normal (lol). But in the meantime, because of how determined he is to act out, I would be wondering about two possibilities, either that the child has been sexually exposed or abused in some way, or that he might have sensory processing disorder.
It probably would do some good if you (or the child's parent(s)) were to talk to a children's therapist. Sensory kids (kids with sensory processing disorder) sometimes act out in sexual ways that are not quite expected for their age group, and certainly kids who have been exposed to sexual activity often do. It would be a good idea to rule out both thing. You (or they) might find out that he just has a foot fetish, but since he is being so expressive, it's worth discussing with a professional.
Unfortunately, unlike a kid who has discovered how to masturbate, you can't just go to the next step and tell him he has to do this private thing in his own room with the door shut (I have never heard of a foot fetishist who is turned on by his OWN feet, he would likely need a partner, or at least a doll). But you might direct him to his room when he gets into the mood to touch others' feet, and see if this puts his thoughts in a different direction.
I suggest this because some kids will stop an unwanted sexual behavior if they have to go away from everyone else to do it. (A friend's daughter would straddle the sofa arm and 'hump' it when she was quite young. She stopped when her mom told her she had to do such things in her room, not because she couldn't do it in her room, but because she would rather be with her family out where the fun was, than hump the sofa arm).
One could hope that your grandson might outgrow his obsessiveness about this as he grows up and finds other parts of women's bodies to obsess over that are more socially normal (lol). But in the meantime, because of how determined he is to act out, I would be wondering about two possibilities, either that the child has been sexually exposed or abused in some way, or that he might have sensory processing disorder.
It probably would do some good if you (or the child's parent(s)) were to talk to a children's therapist. Sensory kids (kids with sensory processing disorder) sometimes act out in sexual ways that are not quite expected for their age group, and certainly kids who have been exposed to sexual activity often do. It would be a good idea to rule out both thing. You (or they) might find out that he just has a foot fetish, but since he is being so expressive, it's worth discussing with a professional.
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