Hello. I have doubts on a trouble and I would like some advise: about a month ago, I drove my seven year old to the house of one of his school mates to prepare a homework. After the work they began to play, and in what I consider an accident, the boy, another schoolmate and my son broke a piece of a furniture, injuring a little the younger brother of the boy. After take care of the little, the mother spanked bare bottom the three boys, including mine. I thought my son was the most affected, because we do not spank our children. There are better ways to discipline, and from the results we see, we think we took the best decision. Back in our home, the buttocks of my son was only a little red and he didn't feel to much pain. We decided to forget the thing.
But, in a couple times since then, I had to discipline the boy for some mischief. The two times the boy asked me if I was going to spank him, looking a bit nervous. Of course I didn't do that.
Last weekend my boy had a big argument, that I won't discuss, with another boy from our neighborhood. After learned what happened, I ordered my son to apologize with the other boy. He refused several times, although I made clear to him I would punish him. Finally my son told me he wanted to be spanked rather than apologize. My son is spending the day in his room, refusing to obbey, and my husband suggested that, for this time only, we should gave him a light spanking and make him apologize anyway. Since I prefer not to spank him, I would like an advise on how to react on these cases.
Thank you for your time.