My son started Kindergarten about 7 weeks ago and the teacher has already made 3 calls home about his aggressive behavior. He has been blamed for (and yes, seen) pushing, hitting, and name calling. Last week I had to meet with teacher and vice principal because my son pointed 2 pencils at a classmate, saying he he was going to kill her.
I am definitely very confused over my child's behavior - he has been in preschool/daycare/summer camp since he was younger than 2 and never had issues with this.
What concerns me EVEN MORE however, is his teacher's response to it all. It has come to the point where she won't even listen to my child, and has told him "she does not believe him" when he says he did not do something. I met with her last week and basically got into a semi-argument over this, she told me that my child is "seedy" and that I have to, at some point, recognize that he is lieing to me. When I asked if children at 5 make conscious decisions to lie, she told me I needed to "stop making excuses for my child".
At the meeting with the vice principal, my son was asked to come over and tell his side of the pencil story. He was very fidgety - picking a chair up and down, looking around. The teacher turned to the vice prinicipal and stated "see, this is what he does when he is in trouble, he tries to divert my attention.". I immediately spoke up and said that my child was not tying to divert attention but was instead nervous. Thankfully, the VP agreed with me.
I am very concerned that this teacher is contributing to my child's behavior. I want him to enjoy school, not go to school afraid he wont be listened to. I am not saying that my child's actions are ok - I know it is not ok to use the word kill, and I know I need to work with him on things. But I worry that this teacher has somehow "labelled" my son, with only knowing him for 7 weeks. Is'nt a teacher supposed to be a child's ally? Listening to him and encouraging him to use his words?