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I am a mom of two children, a five year old daughter and a 2 year old son.  My ex-husband officially moved out of the house in May of 2009 and into a condo with his new younger girlfirend.  They had a baby in December of 2009. They moved in with her parents about 6 week ago (September 2010) and will be moving into renting a home next week.  I left our home in April of 2010 and moved in with my parents.  I left my parents about 6 weeks ago (september 2010) to move into my boyfriend house.  My boyfriend has 2 sons a 3 year old and a 5 year old.  All kids are beautiful, healthy, lots of energy, imaginations etc.. My boyfriend is a little too much on teh strict side and I am a little too much on the easy going side!  We have both acknowleged this about ourselves.  My ex-husband is too sensative and easy going when he is around and his girlfirned well she is only 22!!!!  She seems nice and loving to my kids, but not sure how her coparenting is with my ex-husband.  All the adults in this senerio get along amlicably... with all this being said... Here is my questions:

My 5 year old has been acting out.  She has had about 4 very bad behavioral episodes.  I didn't know how to handle them.  Two episode were before we moved in with my boyfriend and two after.  An example of her actions are hitting and kicking me, throwing things like my curling iron and clothes, telling me she hates me, etc... I put her on a time out and she just gets up and sticks her tongue out at me and throws more stuff.  I try this about 3 to 5 times then I tell her I am goign to take away a toy for the night and this goes on for about 5 to 10 toys and still throwing kicking and bad words being used.  What is a way to stop her when she is acting liek this?!?  
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Well have youspanked her before ? Sometimes that may work I'm not saying beat her but you know sometimes you can take out your belt show it to her and tell her if she don't stop she's gonna get a whoopen
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Your daughter may be going through some adjustment disorder related to all the changes that have happened in her life recently, dad left, has a new girlfriend, now a new baby, etc.  NOw you are in a new place with a BF and you had moved previously.

Maybe try getting some alone time with your daughter where you two just go and do something you both enjoy. See if that will help, it might help her feel more loved.  YOu and the BF need to sit down and talk about teh discipline of the kids and how it will go so you both can be consistent.  Also, she may not see BF as teh parent, so him being harsh on her may not be taken well either.  

This is a time of big adjustement for all involved.
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