My daughter is eleven and suffers from anxiety and has been on Lexapro for about a year. It seems to help her somewhat (I notice a change when she misses a day). I have suspected that she may also have ADD, and last year her teacher evaluated her and she scored very high on the scale. Her pediatrician confirmed. We have tried three medications, all of which produced intolerable side effects. The last one kept her up for the entire night, making me suspicious about the ADD diagnosis. Her teachers say she talks non-stop and will not focus in class. She is extremely bright (in a G/T class), so she IS capable, but she is also lazy. She has "breakdowns" because she is failing, the teachers yell at her, she feels embarrassed, etc. She says she feels "like the missing piece of the puzzle". She will have what we call "meltdowns" where she SCREAMS, throws things, knocks everything to the floor, etc. We have been to three therapists with unsuccessful results, and there aren't that many in my city. Bi-polar runs in my family: grandfather, uncle, and I am on Depakote to regulate mood swings. I am told it is difficult to diagnose in a child. I am at the end of my rope. I have multiple medical problems and am in unbearable pain. Her dad and I are divorced, and he wants to know nothing about her problems.We have MAJOR financial problems to boot.
How do I know if she truly has a problem or is simply lazy or both? She says she desperately wants to succeed (her teacher has threatened to "kick her out of the program" where she will feel humiliated and her self-esteem will suffer), but won't do what is necessary TO be successful. I she has to research for a report, she will go to twenty web sites rather than just choosing ONE. PLEASE, do you have any advice for me? I get such conflicting messages from her behavior. I KNOW her anxiety and worries are real, she always talks about the "pressure" and how she can't take it.