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Behavioral/Emotional Problems at School

My six-year old son is in his second year of kindergarten, labeled with an emotional disability (because of alleged low frustration levels).  However, all behaviors listed below are ONLY seen at school.  In 6 other environments, we can not reproduce meltdowns, running away from authority figures, etc.  
I am at my wits
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There is a subset of children, admittedly a rather small subset, who feel quite vulnerable when in the presence of a large group (e.g., a classroom) of peers. They do fine in their family, with one or two peers, in the neighborhood with a few children, etc. When children feel vulnerable/scared they tend to act in a disorganized, regressed fashion, much like your son is doing. This problem tends to be related to development and usually resolves itself by first or second grade. I'd suggest you arrange an evaluation by a pediatric mental health professional. That person can confer with the school personnle as well as with you in the process of evaluating your son.
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I can't offer any help, but maybe your child is acting out due to his frustrations at school.  Why are there 5-8 teachers?  Is it such a large class?  I am sure when you go to observe, you will have a better idea of what he is going through.  Best of luck...
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There are two aids in the classroom with the teacher (25 students).  Then there are two special educators, one behavioral therapist, the music teacher, PE teacher, and principal.

Oh and the speech therapist.  

He is in a normal kindergarten class this year.  Last year, when he was five, he started at an all year kindergarten in City One, but we moved a month into that school year, and he started at this kindergarten.  The school lost him for the first week. By lost I mean that they didn't really know who he was or that he had an IEP (even though MULTIPLE copies were given).  A month into the regular class's school year, he was moved to a smaller class setting (autism class), even though he does not have autism, just behavioral problems.  He was in that class last year, and the one condition I gave them this year (to allow him to be held back) was that he was in a regular class this year, and only pulled out for his speech therapy (which is no longer actually needed).  

I feel that they are still treating him as a special education child, and coddling him.
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It might be that it is just too overwhelming for him.  Our daughter is experiencing problems in school, too.  One comment from her teacher, this year, is that she is immature for her age.  And I am thinking, with her, that she may be overwhelmed, too.  She doesn't act out, but can't get her act together otherwise.  I am sure the good doc here will give you advice and a direction to go in.  Best of wishes to you and your son...
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My son's IEP is stripped this year and he has been intergrated into a "typical" classroom.  I let him go against my gut, in hopes of not "clipping his wings".  In Kindergarten he clearly did not belong in his special needs class, but when I saw him in his (1hr./day) in the typical class he just did not fully fit there either ... he's stuck in limbo.  Anyway, mostly inthe afternnons he has been having problems similar to some that you reported, but mostly defiance, crying for me and tantrums during transitioning to other classes or activities.

I just wanted to mention that maybe you can suggest they have in in special needs class for a potion of the day and then spend a potion in the tyoipcal class?  That is what I am going to push for when I have the team meeting I called on Oct 14.  They kind of did it last year so hopefully it's an option for us.  My son has also been a little better since we have been giving him a second does of ADHD meds in school.  Not an issue for you I know, but best of luck to you.
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I just wanted to thank everyone for their comments.  We are in the process of working with a therapist, fighting the school, and seeing what our son needs to be successful in school.  Thank you all, and God bless you.
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I would like to share some information about my 11 year old daughter. She is a very, beautiful, and witty, and also very bright young lady. She has had either A or B honoroll since 1st grade and is now in the 6th. Each year because of her (adhdw/anxiety) she has had new challenges to face. I have worked with her psycologist, and her teachers very closely to accomodate, Megan with her dissabilities, and to help her self esteem stay as high as possible. Last year was a real struggle, with her compulsive, beahvior. She acts very impulsively, as to blurt out in class, she is very forgetful, such as notes, or text books needed to come home, and forgetting to turn in the work that she does do on time. This year she is facing the same problem, although one of her teachers is very strict. She gets 10 points off each day an assignment is late, and if it goes past 3 days she gets an F. Of course if it is not turned in at all she gets a 0! She has been going to the same private Christian school since she was 2, she has the following grades in each class as of 1/2 term. Bible A History A PE A+ Reading b-, who is taught by the same teacher as Science, D- and Study Hall b- who is also taught by the same teacher. Her 3 classes under this teacher are a real struggle with her, while all the other classes, are great! How can one teacher be so strict, and not bend, while the others are so great? The science/reading/study hall teacher and I have talked, she is fully aware of my daughter's dissabilities, and what symptoms to look for (a lot of which she truly cannot help) but even though this teacher is trying to work with me such as: She was trying to Make my daughter keep all of her assignments in each category in her note book (7 categories) My daughter was use to keeping everything in one folder (per her psycologist request) So she would not forget to turn in any homework. This worked well last year, but this teacher refused this year. Now she is trying to work with me, but she has already gotten the d- and impossible to pull it back up to at least a B. So my daughter is devistated, knowing that she new the material, did the work, and only forgot to turn them in. She takes ritalin 20mg in am 20mg in lunch, and 10 mg at homework at 3:00. Any comments or suggestions would be much appreciated. I love my daughter very much, and am really grasping at straws trying to keep her above water. We work on homework everynight, for 3-5 hours! Not that there is that much homework, only that she can't stay focused long enough to get it done. She erases, angrily, saying "that is not good enough, or that is not right! Angry because the clock is ticking away, and once again she has lost playing time. I realize she is in school for 8 hours, and then I'm working with her another 5 at home, but don't know what else to do.
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Is it possible to change her teacher?  It kind of sounds to me that this teacher is not willing to put in the extra time and effort to address the needs of your daughter.  In other words, the teacher is not a good fit for your daughter.  Your daughter has different needs than other students.  You could ask to meet with the teacher and discuss these needs with her, ask for a different teacher, or put up with the situation, possibly at the expense of your daughters educational experience for the year.  I would be persistent with communicating with her teacher, and let her know what you think is needed.  Possibly confer all together with the other teachers.  I wish you the best...
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Hi, My daughter is like this too. What is boils down to is two things IMO, they are:

A. Technology: Today, our children are expect to know addition facts and subtraction facts in Kindergarten, get along with other children, share,not talk, produce large amounts of work, and are expected to "deal" with it. This is very dangerous since there is no rushing the mind. The mind trys to "catch up" and sooner or latetr is breaks and can't handle it. This is my theory on "why" we have so many kids on drugs these days. Technology is rushing our minds, rushing our children's minds, and therefore causing other ailments...
Just ponder on this for awhile

B. Artificial social setting: A child should be with their family for most of the day; however, they end up with 29 or so more peers and are influenced by each other, rather than their own natural environment. They also have to socially confom OR they get punished, which seeds further depression and recentment of school and the idea of school, and later will result in bad grades, bad behavior...ect..



My advice is to consider two options:

A. Homeschool: This is an option that is very "natural" A child can thrive in a GOOD homeschooled enviroment. I know plan on doing this next year, unitl she graduates.

B. Art therapy: have your child draw his day out on paper. You may want to start with this question: What do you do when you first walk in the classroom? Have him draw it. Ask him to explain what is going on in the pictures. Sooner or later, you will have some answers. The more he does this, the better he should be at telling you what REALLY goes on in his classroom. It could be something minor to you and I , but to him it is huge...

Good Luck
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