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Well this is the first time that i have been on here so dont really know where to put my question.  My little boy has just recently turned 4 years.  I knew for a long time that he seems sometimes aggessive.  Doesnt seems to listen or able to listen for a long time now.  I insisted that he was checked for glue ear and because he was under 4 years had abit of a fight on my hands to have that done in my area.  Eventually it was disgnosed that he had glue ear and he had grommits fitted before he started nursery which of course i was pleased with.  He has since started nursery and both me and his teacher both thought that their was a strong possibilty that hes still has trouble hearing.  I also mentioned this to his consultant.  I went to have another hearing test yesterday because of the concerns from his teacher but all the consultant done was put some headphones on and my son had to press a button everytime he heard a noise.  The nurse wasnt very child friendly and didnt explain it properly to my son (it seems to take alot of explaining for my son to understand what is being asked of him) so he just listened to the noises and kept pressing the button.  when we went in to see the consultant he did another test on my son by whispering things in his ears and my son had to repear them.  My son past both test and so has fine earing apparently.  But the thing is i know that my son can hear one on one - i could have done those tests myself at home instead of travelling 20 mile for it.  My son has problems with hearing when its got a lot of background noise like in the nursery or when the tv is on, or theirs alot of children at home.  The consultant said most children will have diffifulty in situations like that.  I have been in my sons nursery and all the children seems to manage fine but my sons seems to be in a world of his own.  His teacher also says that it seems like he is just in a world of his own aswell.   He has an obsession with all things BEN 10 and i know lots of boys do but that all he talks about at the moment.  He still has massive tamtrums,  has been know to lash out at nursery on quite afew of occassions.  I also think that his speak is a little bit delayed.  When he doesnt listen to me or his teacher, people think that he is just being naughty but i dont actually think hes listening - he just seems to be somewhere else.  Oh and also when a baby is at our house and my sons in doing his own thing, if the baby crys or screams my son says that the baby his making his ears very sore.  

Can someone please help me

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Thanks everyone, the health visitor is coming on thurs so I mention all this to her. X
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973741 tn?1342342773
To throw something else into the mix,  auditory processing problems have much to do with this and it is part of the sensory system.  Actually occupational therapy can help this.  Good luck
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13167 tn?1327194124
I agree with what the others have said,  and something in your post reminded me of a child I know with Aspergers,  and he's very high functioning and is in fact now at Berkeley doing great.  

He can't tune in and tune out different sounds,  or even different stimulus.   For example,  when he was 4, he was trying to watch a TV show and another child was bouncing up and down vigorously (but virtually silently) on a baby trampoline,  and he couldn't hear the TV.  The visual stimulus of that child jumping in his peripheral vision made him unable to process the tv program.  In other instances,  continuous humming noises that others could block out would drive him to the point of screaming that it had to stop,  he couldn't stand it anymore.  

I suspect your son might also be touched with a little bit of ADD,  which isn't an all bad thing.  The most imaginative people in history have ADD.  

Really,  on balance,  it sounds like your son is doing okay and every child has their strengths and weaknesses - his is focusing in a group situation.  

Best wishes.

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I'm glad you got the glue ear sorted as that would've been a major contributing factor to your sons behaviour. My advice would be to talk to your son's teacher/s and remind them of the outcome from the glue ear and tell them he needs simple verbal instructions, and getting him to repeat the instructions back to them. Kids sometimes don't understand the instructions we give them, even though we think we've put them in a simple way.

For example, just the other day while working in after school care, we had a room full of children making huge amounts of noise, to the point where i told them all they had to sit in silence and if anyone spoke, they'd have to stand up. This went on for about 10mins when a 8/9yo came up to me and asked 'is this a game?'

some children around this age are just in 'a world of their own'  so if the teachers can reinforce this, hopefully he will take note and if not, i'd get it seen to again to make sure their is no inner ear/ear drum damage. All the best :)

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Your description reminds me of our nephew.  He was diagnosed with high-functioning autism - PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder - not otherwise specified).  It might be wise to seek consult from your family doctor.  The earlier the diagnosis; the better the prognosis for this disorder (if in fact, this is the issue with your son).  Just wondering ....
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