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Conduct Disorder or Behavior issues
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I have a daughter who is now 16. I know she is perhaps a little old for this site, but I wanted to ask this anyways. Recently, she has stolen from me twice but I did not confront her about it. She stole before, when she was in preschool she took someones paint set but I made her return it the next day. She also once stole a pack of gum from the store. Other than that, she does not steal now. However, she used to cut up her sisters clothes or hide them or break their jewelry when she was mad at them. She was always remorseful it after she did it and that also stopped on its own. she was about 13 when she did this. One last thing. Now when she gets angry at our bird for making a mess, she hits the cage but never the bird. She also held its feathers back a couple of times to see if it could still fly. I know she did not want to hurt it though and I know she cares for it because when it got sick she thought it was going to die and burst into tears. She also once, at age 8, had a pet fish she would used to hold out of the water to play with but as soon as I told her the fish could die if she kept that up she stopped. Other than this, she is shy and very nice and well behaved. Her teachers love her and she has great behavior. I think some of this behavior may be learned from her father. He has anger issues and used to tear my clothes with his hands. Please let me know what you think. I looked at the conduct order symptoms and really dont think she has it, but she used to cut clothes which falls under destroying property. A response on how to handle this and what you think would bring me great peace of mind. Thank you!
I have a daughter who is now 16. I know she is perhaps a little old for this site, but I wanted to ask this anyways. Recently, she has stolen from me twice but I did not confront her about it. She stole before, when she was in preschool she took someones paint set but I made her return it the next day. She also once stole a pack of gum from the store. Other than that, she does not steal now. However, she used to cut up her sisters clothes or hide them or break their jewelry when she was mad at them. She was always remorseful it after she did it and that also stopped on its own. she was about 13 when she did this. One last thing. Now when she gets angry at our bird for making a mess, she hits the cage but never the bird. She also held its feathers back a couple of times to see if it could still fly. I know she did not want to hurt it though and I know she cares for it because when it got sick she thought it was going to die and burst into tears. She also once, at age 8, had a pet fish she would used to hold out of the water to play with but as soon as I told her the fish could die if she kept that up she stopped. Other than this, she is shy and very nice and well behaved. Her teachers love her and she has great behavior. I think some of this behavior may be learned from her father. He has anger issues and used to tear my clothes with his hands. Please let me know what you think. I looked at the conduct order symptoms and really dont think she has it, but she used to cut clothes which falls under destroying property. A response on how to handle this and what you think would bring me great peace of mind. Thank you!
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Omg!!!! I am just screeming out!!!! Do you think you can get a diagnosis here? I do not think sandman2 has the appropiate knowleadge to be asked about. Talk to somebody that can guide you well. Talk to her dr. And ask for a referral. I am a sw and even I cannot tell you If your child has a mental disorder. Good luck!!! Ask for help for yourself as well. You need it!!!
When you mention she most likely learned ripping thing from the father your correct as most of our behavior is learned from the immediately family members. For this i would suggest having the father talk with her and that he was wrong if showing this type of behavior and say hes sorry. A parent saying their sorry to a child can have a very positive influence.
For the stealing, this is also very common and we all do it in one form or another. Weather is tax retuns or using store coupons ment for another product.
Stealing means we need money so maybe set her up with a allowance for doing things around the house.
As for animals, empathy comes with age as the longer we are alive the more our concern for other living things grows.
For the stealing, this is also very common and we all do it in one form or another. Weather is tax retuns or using store coupons ment for another product.
Stealing means we need money so maybe set her up with a allowance for doing things around the house.
As for animals, empathy comes with age as the longer we are alive the more our concern for other living things grows.
So it sounds like she stole from you twice recently but you didn't confront her about it? Was this money, or something else?
The other stuff was years ago, and I'm not sure it's all that out of line for her age.
The other stuff was years ago, and I'm not sure it's all that out of line for her age.
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Not sure I understand the problem. Most (or all?) of what you posted is what she used to do. Kids do things. Heck, teenage girls are at a very weird age. But what is she doing now that bothers you? You said she "does not steal now".
Does she have anyone to talk to about anger issues? I mean, a therapist or counselor? Is one available through school?
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