specialmom I agree that I don't think this is a big deal. Thank you for the reassurance.
I don't think it is necessary to discuss it myself. Let's face it-------- circumcizion is the norm in our culture and most boys are in the United States. It is only a controversial issue if you are sensative to it. I don't think most boys really care. It's not that big of a deal.
This post has sparked a question of my own. My son is 7, and I have never discussed this with him. I have never thought about it in fact. I guess if he had a problem or abnormality then I would have. When I had my son the doctors all said it was kind of 50-50 for people and it was entirely a personal choice on the behalf of the parents. My question is, should we be discussing this with our sons? And if so, what age is that an appropriate discussion?
I raised 2 boys who were both circumsized and this never came up one time with them. Unfortunatley there is so much information available at our children's fingertips that they can read something that will scare them. As adults we do the same when googling answers for medical symtpoms. This boy may never have given it a second thought had he not come across something on the internet that gave reason to be concerned. I would have explained why it was done or not done and moved on. But he did come to you and that's good because the internet can put things in their heads and if not addressed by an adult, they can carry a misperception around for a long time.
I can't tell from your very lengthy and distressed post whether your son is circumcised and you're trying to protect him from the antis, or if he is NOT circumcised and you're trying to protect him from the pros.
I'm a girl, so I don't always get deep male issues, but the men in my family don't have issues about this. It's like - with girls - are your ears pierced or not. Is your belly button an innie or an outie.
Your long post seems to exhibit a great deal of distress with whatever decision you've made with your son, whichever decision that actually was.
My sons are circumcised. They have a very few friends who are not. It's all good. None of them seem traumatized about it.
The bigger question here is you do seem to be suffering trauma from which decision you made, or the decision that was made for you at birth. I wonder if counseling might ease your anxieties.
Well, don't be embarressed. It's alright. I would try not to worry too much------- I'm not sure what you'd have to google to get that to pop up------- but it seems unlikely your boy will. I don't know how old he is but if he is noticing a difference than him than other boys----- tell him there are others out there like him and that you all chose not to circumsize. We're all unique and different and that is alright. Kind of like a character lesson. Good luck
He doesn't worry about it anymore. He discovered it by accident and I explained what it was. I prevented him from reading up on crap posted on the internet so he doesn't suddenly think there's something wrong with him. Honestly, I don't worry about it either other than him filling his head with a bunch of nonesense. I should've shortened also worded the thread differently since it sounds totally different than I'd originally intended. Sorry, I regret posting this thread after rereading then to realize how extremely awkward it came out. How embarrassing.
Well, why does your son have such a quest for knowledge on circumcision? I was trying to figure out what you were talking about. Is it that your child is not circumcised and you are afraid he will feel different than other boys that are? Honestly, I'm hoping that would be a nonissue as who cares? Some kids have brown hair, some blonde and some red. We are all different. So for my family-------- this is not an issue. So no------- I am not going to explain circumcision/noncircumcision. It's a choice and not something we are hung up on.
Maybe the "don't care" would have sounded better if I had said "indifferent" as for many this is a nonissue. I understand you can not edit the poll but I'll not answer then as it does not apply to us. Good luck.
"I don't even know what you are talking about to be honest. My son is circumcized and he knows it ????? You need to add a category for "I don't care". Not trying to be rude but not exactly a hot topic for my family."
I can't edit once the thread is created too add another poll option, but some parents don't care if their son knows or what they know about it. I and other parents (not speaking for everyone) don't want our sons reading up false info. then feeling depressed or angered about his body. I'm not saying, "OMG he shouldn't know about it!" and be the over-reactive parent. lol Just that he doesn't need to be burdened with the debate over it or whatnot and just be a child. I've known others that went through this with their kids worrying about their body image or whatever. lol
I don't even know what you are talking about to be honest. My son is circumcized and he knows it ????? You need to add a category for "I don't care". Not trying to be rude but not exactly a hot topic for my family.
I'm going to say this once: This is NOT a thread for debate or harsh words. Please keep it to yourself and take it elsewhere!