Wow! What a great and timely question! We do live in the connected era, don't we? My boys are the age in which phones are all the rage. But I've noticed, this happens younger and younger. My boys currently do not have phones. However, we have a family cell phone that they can take to various things. It's mine, I tell them. :>) I have a cell phone purchased that is going to be the one I let my older son use. But I'll have parental controls on it. And I make a big deal about that I pay for data time and that if they use it, I'll know. Both my kids use google hang outs to connect with friends--- you can text or do video chat. They do have chrome books and ipads.
I had an adult that is as straight laced as they come tell me that it makes your kid socially awkward for them not to have a cell phone by 9th grade. I'm not quite there yet with the age of my sons. But part of me knows that other kids are using their devices to communicate and your kids miss out if they don't.
One thing that I think is important---- that even if our kids don't have their own phones, the internet world is still in front of them. Their friends have phones. They use computers or chrome books or ipads for school. Heck, our TV's are smart TV's these days. So, in my opinion, what is most important is to talk to your kids. Open communication about these things will help guide your child. Proactively talk about things like porn. gulp. Hard to do. But kids may be curious. Explain what porn is. Why you don't like it. And that while they have devices that you pay for, that you don't allow it. Ask their opinions on it. I'm not sure what you mean by -gay- material. Being gay is not bad in my opinion. I expect that as kids get older, they've met some gay people in their day and tolerance is something I personally believe in. But those are my values. I teach my kids my values. I would expect that if we have discussed subjects, that when faced with real life situations involving those subjects, they are better equipped to handle it. Same with violence. Talk about it.
That's my two cents. We can protect just so much so we also need to prepare them. good luck with your son!
My son has his own phone but its now being taken away for good. Ifs the devil. My child is being brainwashed with all this sick material! Porn has now put evil and disgusting taint on my sons no longer innocent mind! Porn should be illegal!! Internet is ruining relationships and innocent children all over the world!!