Don't know what to do with my 3 year old.

[jenna1104]

Hi, my son is 3 years old, he suffers from the worst mood swings, one minute he's nice and caring and funny then if something triggers him he turns into a monster in a second and then back to normal just as fast. Its not typical toddler tantrums, i know this, but its just so difficult sometimes and embarrassing. The main problem is when something needs doing without warning him e.g if we need to go to the shops and i haven't let him know in advance it seems to throw him off, he likes to know whats happening everyday and in what order and throughout the day he will check again and again and ask the same questions again and again and if their is a break in the chain somewhere he finds it difficult to cope with and gets really upset for a while then he just stops and carrys on as normal in a matter of seconds, hes like a light switch. Sorry if this is all abit muffled, i hope to get some replys. Thanks Jenna xx

[Athena_M]

Hi Jenna,
I was thinking it sounds like autism.  Does he make eye contact?  Does he flap his hands?  Does he have difficulty communicating? How is he socially?  As far as asbergers goes, does he hate affection?  

It could also be, like with my son, sugar and red dye sensitivities.  My son gets moody if he has sugar or red dye.  We stopped those things and have noticed a big improvement.  We don't give him juice or cookies not even gram crackers.  We also noticed he has meltdowns when he eats saltine crackers.  You can also look into the Feingold Diet for ADHD.  Even if he doesn't have it the diet is excellent for children with behavior problems.  Always give him a protein with each meal too to keep him calm.  

Your son needs what specialtist call "transitional warnings".  Always prepare him ahead of time for events throughout the day.  Tell him what to expect and what will be occuring.  

Good luck to you and your boy.  Keep me posted.

Athena

[mommy_2010]

your welcome and tha best to u and ur lil one..hope all goes well.

[jenna1104]

Thankyou for your response mummy_2010, nice to feel like i have someone on my side, first thing tuesday morning im going to get booked in with the gp and ask for a referral to a specialist centre that we have here in sheffield, ive posted the same post on a few different sites/forums and they are all leading back to autism or apargers so i think its time to get him checked out, best of luck with ur little one, take care xxxx

[mommy_2010]

my daughter is 2 and does almost tha same thing...one mintute she is giving hugs and kissed adn dancing,laughing and everything then tha next min she screams throws things and is uncontrollable i will tell her no and she will not listen..i have tried time out iv tried everything jus doesnt work....im not a doctor but im considering getting my daughter tested for bipolar due to tha fact me and her dad both have it. if there is ne1 in ur family that has it theres a good chance he may have it???also my lil friends boy was like that she got him tested he had autism..im not sayn he has either of these but i have considered gettn my daughter tested...i wish you tha best of luck and hope u find out wuts bothering ur lil one..im sure it will calm ur nerves and well as make lil man feel better....if you decide to get him tested maybe u could inform me of what he has or if i get my lil one tested i can inform u...if u need sum1 to talk to im here good luck