Father & Daughter Realtionship ...What`s normal?

[kindredspirit52]

I am 52yrs old & I have recently moved in with my 54yrs old bf who is Dutch. I have 2 Sons & he has a 22 yrs old Son & a 20yr old Daughter. We both lost our Fathers at a young age 8yrs & 10yrs.

The Daughter lives with us a few days a week & spends the rest of the time at Uni & her Mothers. The Son is at Uni & doesn`t have a close relationship with his Dad.

I am struggling with how he is with his Daughter, she can do no wrong but what really bothers me is they are all over each other on the sofa, him on top of her tickling & grabbing her, laughing & screaming. He also grabs her as she passes him in the lounge. At the dinner table when talking to him she leans forward, arms folded, showing her boobs in a low cut t shirt, she then grabs her long hair pulling it up on her head while leaning back, pushing out her boobs as she chats ....is this normal ?

I haven`t a Daughter so I don`t know what to expect ...anyone any suggestions?

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm not sure I would stick around, whether what they are doing is innocent or has a hidden agenda.  (Frankly, it sounds like they wouldn't be this obvious is there was really a sexual thing going on, since they would tend to hide it.)  The physical contact, maybe it's really over the top or maybe it's just their standard pattern and they are comfortable with each other and so don't see it as having a sexual element.  But you sound like you are taking it as rivalry, disliking that her cleavage shows or that she arches her back and her bosoms stick out.  If you're in a situation where you're a bit mad at the dad for having a supportive mind-set about his daughter, and you notice her boobs and stuff, it's just going to make you madder over time.  I'd consider moving out until she is out of school and gone.

[margypops]

You know some families do seem to be very familiar, its part of a trait, I agree its does seem over the top, Have you asked him about it ? I doubt if its any sexual content, she is at that flirty age and its possible she is like that with others.I dont think you will stop them doing that you may have to accept it or lose him ...good Luck