8 year old girl having inappropriate thoughts.

[help_a_mom]

My 8 year old daughter has come to me a week ago and explained how she has been thinking a lot about boys and their body part and how she can't stop thinking about what it would be like to lick or bite their body part.
She has also said that she pictures "a male putting his thing into a female" and can't stop thinking about it. She lives with myself and her grandmother, she is not around any males here at home.

I have repeatedly asked her if anyone has touched her.
She says no.
I have asked her who has spoken to her about these things.
She says no one, then she says, "well maybe my friend a long time ago"

We live on a small street, all the parents know each other, she plays with 2 other little girls on the street, one is 11 the other is 9.

I told her not to speak or think about these things as they are inappropriate and she is a child. Children should be thinking about playing with toys, riding their bicycle, colouring, doing homework, and pretty much just enjoying their childhood.

Anyways, I am traumatized and don't know what to do. I'm afraid to take her to talk to a doctor because I think it will further confuse her and frighten her. She has not mentioned any of this until a week or so ago. Prior to that, she was a normal child who was concerned about normal childhood things.

Can someone please give me some helpful advice?

[Liquid4444]

It sounds to me like it is someone else's fantasy, maybe one of her friends recently and she has latched on to it for some reason. It sounds to me like it might pass if the connection is broken between her past friends. Her friends might have got it from an older girl. Who knows. You have told her it is wrong to do these things, even to bite.
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[SL345]

Chances are she has been thinking about this for awhile (since someone told her something a long time ago), but it is just emerging now. Has she begun to show any bodily chzanges associated with entry into puberty? She is at an age when her body may be starting to produce hormones associated with entry into puberty even though she may not yet be showing any physical manifestations of bodily changes. If she is having a hormonal upsurge, that alone could explain the intrusive thoughts. My advice would be the exact opposite of what you told her. Instead of telling her not to think about it (I don't know a person who can force himself or herself not to think about sexual feelings), I'd encourage you to open up lines of communication. Have you explained what is/will be happening to her body and feelings when she enters puberty? There are age appropriate books that can help with this. Find out more about what she heard a long time ago and what she knows and has seen. It can be a big relief to know that you don;t have to supress these thoughts and feelings and that they are a natural and acceptable (rather than unacceptable) part of who you are. And, take a lot of deep breaths.