Its up to his mom if she wants to seek advice about her child, so really look after him or let him go if its too much. If you have told her about your concerns and she doesn't think its a problem its out of your hands .I think children have different rates of growth they are not all the same,I don't believe most are autistic ,it wouldn't hurt for her to get his hearing checked out if he's not responding to his name , does she also have the same problem where he doesn't respond to her speaking his name ?
Hi. I agree with Margy that your first step is to talk to his mom.
What is hard about kids is that they all develop at different paces. That is why many things aren't diagnosed until a child is a little older------- such a wide range of normal.
Autism--------- will usually have some kind of speech component to it. Even high functioning autism has speech red flags. How does this child articulate?
I'd like you to google sensory integration disorder and see what you think. Some of what you describe such as his tripping (the two things brought to my attention as red flags for sensory integration disorder which my son was diagnosed with were speech/articulation issues and tripping) can fall under sensory issues. Motor planning is part of the sensory/nervous system and if a child even has a mild issue------------- the ability to do some things ---------- sometimes gross movement and often fine motor becomes challenging.
Another part of sensory can involve auditory processing. My son has issues with this as well. He hears (have had his hearing checked)----------- but it takes a bit longer to process it (make sense of it). Yes, even his name. He also can hear things all at one volume. This means that my calling his name is as loud as the radio, the other child in the room, his own breathing---------- so he misses it. This is common with sensory kids. We work on his nervous system as a whole and then he is able to process better and the ability to inhibit other things so he can hear me works better. Think of the brain as having lots of little gates in it. Most people have these gates that hold back what needs to be held back so a child can hear you or focus on doing a task, etc. Only one gate is open at a time------- but in a sensory child--------- many gates open at once. It is chaotic and harder for a child to hear you or to focus on something or to remember a rule, etc.
Sensory is treatable and my son is proof that a child can really overcome a lot of obstacles. So google it and see what you think. Then you can do some things while he is with you that might help him. Good for all kids so you boy could do them as well.
In the mean time, get this boy out and about. He should be at a park every single day running, climbing, sliding, swinging, jumping, rolling, etc. It will regulate that nervous system and help him function/cope better. good luck
I find that the Mother will most likely not do any thing about it-as far as hearing goes, as I had even asked her about one month ago, if he has ever had his vision checked as he is always tripping over things even the same thing again and again. She said thank you for bringing it to her attention that children should have their vision checked and that she would get him done a.s.a.p but so far she has not. I have now come to think that with him not listening very well, that perhaps it is his ears, and could also be the cause of why he falls so much. I have run a daycare for many years, and I do realize children develop at their own rates, but with this child I just feel that my gut is telling me that something is there. I was just looking for some advice on the situation, as I know I have heard many times that the sooner a child is diagnosed the better it is for the child. But I would never want to scare the Mom that it could be something, with the chance I might be wrong. Thank you for your post:)
One other thing I wanted to mention---------- if you are in the states--------- early intervention is provided for by law. All kids can be evaluated for developmental issues upon parent/doctor request and then services provided on a scale related to income. There is the birth to 3 program that this little boy would fall into. After that------ 3 to 5, early intervention takes place through preschool programs at the local public school system. Again, this is a law that it must be provided. FYI for the child's mom.
Oh, and balance can be part of the proprioceptive system---------- again, the sensory system.
Thank you very much, I will look into it. With his speech, it is very minimal. I do take the children out everyday, even our own backyard is like a playground. It is just hard when you are a provider, and notice things that sometimes parents don't see, as they have nothing to go by in terms of development.
Thank you for your post:)