Is my three year old a sociopath?

[flower1012]

My three year old started at one and half by pulling his cousins hair when I would pick him up,by two years old he would give aggressive hugs to smaller children; he would get this look on his face and then hug them around their necks. I feel a a lot of this aggression stems from his cousins treatment of him in their home while being cared by a tfamily member. His one cousin would hug him tight around his neck and was rough; when I said something about this to my sister and brother-in-law they said it would make him tough. I also noticed that his cousins would take his toys and wouldn't like him playing with them and since they were not his toys in his home they would grab the toy out of his hand or he would have to give it to them. I finally sent him to daycare. When I sent him to daycare; they were able to work out the hugging problem. Over this past summer my brother-in-law told me that I needed to teach  my son to keep his hands to himself because he kept hitting his daughter( same cousin as before); it turns out that when I had seen him hit her; he would have a reason such as the fact that she was  teasing him. He would get so frustrated and angry that he would lash out on her, now everyone in my family thinks that my son is rough and that there is something wrong with him.  I think that they might be right because I just had a baby and my son tries to hurt the baby by pressing on her or squeezing her. One day he said that he wanted to poke her eye balls out. My husband was sick recently and  I told my son to stop ringing the bell because the sound would hurt his sick daddy's ears so he went over to my husband and started to ring it in his ear; when I asked him why he did it, he told me that it was fun.  Of course, he sits in time-out for these reasons and I talk to him about feelings and "being mean" versus "being nice". Is my son becoming a sociopath; what am I doing wrong? At two and half years old I had asked for Child Find  to assess him but I was told that the assessment wouldn't be accurate. Now he is three and a half and I feel that his behavior is abnormal.

[dasha568]

Hello
My name is doctor Humicobob,
my job is to deal with familys like your self and help them with there problems. I have seen many situation like this. Familys come to me and don't like what they here, so they never come back. A few years later I here back from them that they were trying to indure girlfriends or close friends, teachers and other family members. Once I came across an insident were a family was so frustrated with there 16 year old daugter that the other siblings had to move in with other family members as it was not safe anymore. These are common symotoms of not normal behavior. I'd get help right away or you might be dangoring your self.

[margypops]

It does sound as if he has learned this behavior,I agree that you could use some professional help .

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd see a children's therapist with him, just to ask for advice.  Maybe this all stems from being frustrated or hurt at the cousins' house, or maybe something else is involved, but it would be a good idea to get a professional opinion if you are concerned.  Sometimes a mother's intuition is right on, and if yours is saying this is not the normal behavior, I would at least check things out.