Things have been really rough with my son lately, and I think I am going to call his doctor in the morning and ask for a referral for a phsychologist. But I really wanted to ask for opinions beforehand, because I have never had a 5 year old before and I do not know what is 'normal' behavior.
Lately it seems like my son WILL not listen. I will tell him to do something and like 2 minutes later he is distracted and says he forgets that I told him to do whatever. For example...I usually have a trashcan under our kitchen sink. But I took it out this morning to spray it out/clean it. So I have a trash bag by our door. Ryan had a bunch of paper in his room, and I asked him to throw away the papers he didn't want to save. So of course he went to throw them away under the sink. I reminded him there was a bag by the door...and he had already used it earlier. But then every trip he made with more paper to throw away he went to the kitchen sink. And it happened like 5 or 6 times, and I had to keep reminding him to go by the door.
He has a DS that I take from him quite often because he gets frustrated and screams and yells when he cannot beat a level in the game. I limit his time on the DS, and I have told him over and over that if he has a problem he cannot scream. I have tried getting him to put it down and recollect himself, and then play again. But he cries loudly and throws himself down when I take it from him. The other thing is...I don't play the game...he is way better at it than me. So I will try to help him, but there are a lot of times that I am busy and cannot, of I just can't figure the game out. He gets so frustrated with it that he will yell in peoples faces when they won't help him. Not an angry type yell, more like a 'But why won't you help me' cry.
He talks NONSTOP. I used to encourage this, but he interrupts quite a bit, and when he is supposed to be going to bed, he will be in his room talking to his brother that is trying to sleep. He also talks loudly and gets so excited about things that he talks super fast and then you cannot figure out what he is saying.
Then today...the kids have wall stickers in their rooms...and he knows not to try to peel them off. And he knows better to write on his walls after a friend of his got in trouble for it. But today he started peeling paint off of the wall in his room. And he got a HUGE section before we caught him. Like a 2 feet by 3 feet section. And he knew it was a bad thing to do, but tried to say he could't remember doing it when it had JUST happened. It was quick that he did it too, because I had been in his room not long before that.
I honestly do not know what to do. These are just a few occurences. Sometimes the way he acts causes DH and I to get frustrated with each other, because we don't know what else to do, or how else to vent. We have tried taking things from him, toys, games, the tv. We have tried putting him in the corner. I feel as though he is always punished. And what is really rough is he has a 3 year old brother that is the exact opposite of Ryan...and I don't want Ryan to feel like his brother is treated better because he doesn't get punished. We have a new baby as well, but I don't think he is jealous or anything...he loves to talk to her. And this started way before she was born. I didn't put Ryan in school this year because he had just turned 5, and I wanted to hold off so he is not the youngest in his class, but now I am thinking maybe I should have. He is a very smart child. And he doesn't get aggresive or anything. I just don't know what to do, or if these are normal things. I cry every night thinking about the things he did that day, or how I had to punish him....and I hate feeling like that.