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Kindergarden Crazy

I have a 5 year old little girl. She is a only child, but I have taken her to story time and had her in preschool. Now that she started Kindergarden a month ago, her behavior is off the charts. She is yelling out in class, misbehaving in line, cutting her clothing, lying about everything (huge lies with plots and organiztion, even consequences). She has always been a bright child and knows every thing they are currently teach, but the socail skills. She has been kicked out of class twice this week and the school has told me that she is scaring the other kids. She knows right from wrong, she says that she has funny wiggles in her and that is why she can't behave.
This is a complete change from how she acted before the start of school. I talk to her, I give her positive reenforcement. The teacher and I are communicating everyday. I need help!! How can I show her a connection between good choices and good things (books, playground, shoping, playdates).
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I just wanted to say thank you to two people the commented on my post. We have discovered the problem and resolved it. Unforturely one her my daughter's new friends was being abused, and the couselor believe that she behavior was an attempt to help, which it did. She is now doing wonderfully in school!! Thank You, again!!
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What makes you think she wants to go to school and be away from you.  She knows how to get to come home to be with you she has your attention and the school's attention.  Think of something very special that you share with her.  Pin it to the inside of her clothing so she can touch it when she wants to come home.  Tell her when she touches it you will know it and she can be brave and stay at school and be home to you soon. Always kiss the palm of her hand and close it for her. So she can remember how much you love her and are waiting for her to come home AFTER school.  It sounds crazy I know but moms have been doing such things for a long long time.  Good luck.
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Kindergarten is a tough transition for lots of kids.  They all of a sudden have many more demands on them, the classes are usually much larger than they had in preschool, there are lots of rules and lots of sitting.  Not to mention that if it is all day----  they are certainly tired.  (not a fan of full day kindergarten,  myself.)

Your daughter sounds like she is having a tough time with this  especially if she's been in preschool and library groups with not problem.  I would suggest being aggressive to fix the problem.  She is probably developmentally immature (which many 5 year olds are)----  but if the problem isn't addressed---  her self confidence is going to take a toll.  The school telling you that she is scaring the other kids is the worst part.  They will start to not play with her and she WILL notice and her self esteem is going to take a nose dive.  

She is going to need more attention from her teacher (who is probably stretched as it is)----  but she should sit close to the teacher for circle or activities or if they have desks.  She can also be the teachers special helper at times (moving some books across the room would be a good activity to calm her-----  things working the muscles are always good.  But any  job that occupies her in a posative way and makes her feel special would be good.)  She or the school couselor should perhaps observe her for a day or two to see what triggers the behavior or if it is at a certain time of day.  Perhaps she is a kid that needs to move and isn't being allowed for example.  Give her the opportunity during class and maybe she will behave better.  

The funny wiggles in her brain----  hm.  My son says something like that but he has a developmental delay called sensory integration disorder.  You would have picked up on this prior to kindergarten however, if she were in preschool functioning fine----  this is unlikely.  So maybe she is talking about impulse control.  Her brain tells her to do something and she can't stop herself.  Give her strategies to slow this process down so the part that knows it is wrong has more time to stop her.  Counting to 10 when she has the wiggles or sitting in her seat, etc.

Try to volunteer when possible in class too.  You may see something they aren't.  Again, if she is in full day kindergarten and they have a half day kindergarten option, I'd consider it.  

Lastly, they say a short 5 minute time out after school on days she gets in trouble is a good discipline strategy.  Good luck.
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