i have a 13 month old and he sleeps with me. i do not think that it is a bad idea for your child to sleep with you as long as they are not too old. me and my sons father love when he sleeps with us. i am soooo used to it that when hes not there i can not sleep. do what you think is best. dont listen to what others think.
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Our eight year old daughter has been sleeping with us, for as long as I can remember. Since she was about 5 years old, we put her in her own bed, but every night she wakes up, to come and sleep with us. We love it and she is a very happy, warm and normal girl. I am sure that at a certain age she will feel she is too old to do that ( she already hides her pillow from our bed, when friends come over), but until then she is more than welcome. If you go down this path, you have to take into account, what effect this might have on the sibblings.
Thanks for all your comments people :)
We have decided to let them sleep with us for a little longer. I mean how can it be wrong? Our girls love cuddling up to mommy and daddy and we love hugging them back :) So how can that have any adverse affect on a child as it grows older?
Cheers all :)
My two month old sleeps with me and my 3 1/2 yr old sleeps in the same room she use to sleep with me until the baby was born but now I know My 3 yr old is a rock solid sleeper and is not aware enough to know if she was to roll over on the baby. I am a single parent and when I was still with there father it was sepreate quarters for the kids but I like what my friend brought up, in other country's the children sleep with the parents and they don't question the childrens compatency or talk about them having issues later on from it it just is. I think its great as long as you are okay with it, I do not think it is good if you will wind up resenting it. Both parties must be happy the parents and children or no one in the long run will be.
I've coslept with both of my kids. My 5yo sleeps in his own bed and, yes, he still does ask for me to come lay with me. But he's 5, therefore easy to reason with. And, really, who doesn't want somebody to snuggle with once in a while? lol I sleep with my 2.5yo in her bed. It's just now getting to the point where I can leave her alone.
Here's how I've always thought of the co-sleeping (and there's research out there to prove it effective).. They become much more independant because they've slept with you. Because they've had the time to become independant at their own pace and haven't been forced into it.
I think with you having twins (if you do choose to let them keep sleeping with you) it'll be much easier to get them into their own room when their old enough to have things explained to them, because they'll have each other.
Also, it wouldn't hurt for you to do a little research on letting your babies cry it out. Even Dr. Ferber himself ("inventor" of cry it out) has said it's not healthy to let your babies do so. There's tons of studies and articles about it and what exactly it does to your babies.
Good luck. You sound like wonderful, caring parents. :)
My daughter has slept with me since the day she was born and she is now a year. I love it and wouldn't change it for the world. For me, parenting doesn't end just because it's night time and if it's closeness they crave why not give it to them? They have a lifetime of being independent and self problem solving ahead of them. Let them lean on you a little longer.
Just my humble opinion.
Unless it's totally depriving you of sleep and your husband doesn't agree (you both have to be on the same page on this) then why not?
As long as you permit them to sleep with you, they will. Can you blame them? You'll have to stick to your guns and not relent as you did. That gives your children the message that all they have to do is fuss and you'll come around. That's probably not the message you'd like to send. If you make the decision for them to sleep in their own room, then be firm, consistent. And, one thing to consider: If you continue to permit them to sleep with you, when do you intend to make the change? The longer you permit this to occur, the graeter the difficulty down the line. Admittedly there are some parents who genuinely think it is the best idea for children to sleep with their parents. I don't happen to share that point of view, and ultimately it's up to parents, not experts, to make the decision. My guidance would be to have the children sleep in their own room.