My 15yr old sister keeps bringing home boys

[Heffa6]

I am 19 and live with my sister. My parents often leave on business trips and don't come back for 1-2 weeks. So on the weeks they leave my 15 year old sister will bring home boys. At first I didn't see a problem because they could be just her friends until sometimes I could hear weird noises in her room, like light pounding or noises you wouldn't ussualy hear... and when or if I would investigate her door would be locked and she would take at least 30 seconds to open it. Other times she will come home at 1am - 3am looking high or drunk. And I've even caught her with weed. I've told my parents but when she is confronted she denies everything. Am I just being paronoid? What should I do?  

[Jeannie2_0]

Wow, okay so I understand your desire to help your sister, my little brother ended up marrying a girl who claimed she was pregnant but then "had a miscarriage" but turned around and ended up actually pregnant because they spotted using protection due to her already being pregnant. However, you could severely damage your relationship with your sister if you spy on her. I honestly think that you should sit down and talk to her about everything before trying to take any "evidence" to your parents, voice all of your concerns to her. Ask her to be smart, such as using protection and birth control. Also dont be judgemental, make sure you clearly express your concern and explain that this is because you love her and that you want to protect her. If she's exhibiting behavior indicative of serious drug usage then talk to her about that as well but be kind. I was addicted to serious drugs for a very long time and some signs to look for are: wearing long sleeves constantly even when hot outside, not sleeping regularly or sleeping way to much, sniffling/reddness on the nose, black rings around the eyes, severe acne (like more than she had before), sores or whelps on her body, ect. If shes using drugs heavily versus just experimenting these could be some of the signs she;d be exhibiting. But again, I caution you to approach her delicately. Being a teenager is difficult, as Im sure your aware of, and Id hate for you to lose your sister by doing something rash.

[Janedoe1234567890123]

Don't ignore this! Your sister is going to end up pregnant or worse. If your parents won't listen, try to bring them proof. Or, have the conversation without her present. This is not a joke.

[Heffa6]

Thank you!

[RockRose]

Your parents know,  and have chosen to pretend they don't know so they can behave as if they don't have children and leave for 2 weeks at a time.  

I think best to get her on birth control,  and talk to her school counselor.  Your parents aren't going to step in here and help,  sadly.  

[SillyOlBilly]

If she's doing drugs and sex, she might be doing it because of feelings caused by lack of attention to her. Try to be nice to her and be open with her. Since your parents leave on business trips for weeks at a time, she must get pretty lonely, hence trying to get boys and their attention by having sex. Instead of just telling your parents about her doing sex and drugs, talk to your sister about all of it first and how she's getting the attention she needs the wrong way. Try to spend more time with her, help her find new hobbies and friends and make up for your parents not being there as much as you can. Then tell your parents that your sister may need help and need to spend more time with them and slowly reveal the situation with her if it seems right to do so.

I hope you can solve the root cause of your sister's problem and I hope that your sister recovers. Good luck!

[SocialJustice91]

Hello,
It sounds like you are worried that you sister in engaging in some high-risk behaviours.  Teenage sexuality is a very taboo subject, and most people want to believe that young teens do not have sex or experiment with drugs and alcohol.  Teenagers all experience this "egocentrism."  In short, it means their brains are literally not developed like an adults, and their comprehension of consequences is just not there yet.  Totally not her fault.  However, this predisposes youth to a "I know ____ happens, but it will never happen to me."  This is why accidents are the leading cause of death of teens and young adults.  I am a social worker, and modern social workers commonly practice "harm-reduction."  Basically in this situation that would apply as follows:  Chances are if your sister is having sex, she is not going to stop having sex.  If she is experimenting with drugs, she may continue to do so.  If you feel comfortable, try having a conversation with her about safe sex, try to come from a place of genuine concern.  Because that is why you are here.  You may have places in your community such as a planned parenthood where you sister can access birth control, condoms, and receive information about sexual health.  As for the drugs, alcohol and partying, for an underaged kid this is real stuff, and it can get really real really quick.  There may be some more serious underlying stuff happening with your sister, which of course I cannot diagnose or make assumptions about.  My best advice is to show her you are concerned, that you care, and hopefully you can be a person she can reach out to if she hits a sticky situation out there.  And keep her confidence, that is a big piece of trust.  Of course if you know she is in direct danger, that is when you need to tell someone who can help.  I hope this helps.

[seeker99157]

you have to stop it. true you need proof, get it, place recorders in her room, hide in their n use ur phones camera, right now your all shes got, save her while u still can, teen years r periods of self discovery, where teens find out who they r, she keeps this up shes end up like that. good luck....

[Mehmeh123]

My 15 year old sister is pregnant. Yes. Call her out. Stand outside her door and record all the noises and show your parents.