Please offer some advice! I am panicked because my 4 yr old will turn 5 next month and of course start kindergarten soon. Both my 3 and 4 yr old have never gone to daycare. My daughter is 4 and the oldest, she was potty trained at early at 1 and couple of months with both poop and pee. My son is 13 months behind her, we tried potty training my son at 2 and that's when my daughter regressed. Also around this time their dad and I separated abruptly. I at first thought this was the triggering factor, but now this has gone on for almost 2 years now. I have tried positive reinforcement, taking away outdoors, regulating their diet, making them sit for a time on the toilet. I have gotten very little success. And when one is doing better, the other keeps pooping on themselves, eventually the other goes back to it. I am becoming very concerned. I hope its not an emotionally issue, my kids are very smart (most people consider them advanced in communication skills). Everyone is wondering, as well as I why they decide to poop on themselves versus going to the bathroom. I see them standing stiff at times, as if they are trying to hold it in. I then tell them to go to the bathroom. They sit there and don't do anything. Then 5 minutes later, they've done it on themselves. I hate punishing them for this, because my gut tells me that I am missing something and have done little to help and more to contribute to the problem. Please advise.
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