My 4yr old cries for no reason,,so fusterated need help!!??

[NicoleHKN]

Can someone please tell me what I should do?i have a 4yr old daughter that cries for no reason i tell her to pick up her toys when she done and she cries my 2yr old cleans for her so she won't have to cry and show her other things so she won't cry and it's has to be the other way around I say..I  can't tell my 4yr old anything cause shel make herself turn purple or shake and cry..I tell her put on your shoes so you can play outside she cries or even to open the door,use the restroom,put her clothes on,or to even watch tv,even to get herself a juice pouch shel cry,,I'm so fustrated that I have to talk to her about her crying an I tell her it's ok to cry but only if there's something major happening to you not little things like when she askes for things or when I need her to clean after herself she cries and I tell her everyday all day that I'm so annoyed don't know what to do anymore I buy her and her sisters the same thing and give them the same attention why is she doing this and the she tells me she does it cause she wants to and don't care so I tried putting her in time out and she's  crying like I'm abusing her it's sad how kids don't wanna play with her cause she always crying for nothing like they did something to her but don't..then at times she laughs at me at times when I get after her witch scares me cause she stares at me like she wants to do something to me...I don't know what to do anymore or what I'm doing wrong Im so fustrated need help please....plus before when she was 2 1/2 -3 she would always hit herself on the floor or walls make herself Bruce's even her doctor saw for herself and told me I need to put her in a room with no objects that she can hurt herself with but when I did that she would make herself faint but it's been a yr and she stop hurting herself and fainting but she still turns purple and shakes and now she just cries for nothing....pls help

[Sandman2]

   Yes, you really do need to work with a mental health professional for this.  This is unusual behavior!  And you need to find the reason.  Yes, kids of this age do cry attempting to manipulate situations to get there way, but not with everybody all the time.
    I have seen some situations like this with children with sensory processing disorder.  I think it would be worth your time to check out this link.  
     http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/sensory-processing-disorder-checklist.html
     Let us know what you think.

[MarkLakewood3367]

Your daughter does cry for a reason.  The question is why and what is making her cry?  Is it because she is hurting emotionally or physically?  Or is it that she is attempting to manipulate situations to get her way?  By your description, it is very hard to determine.  But please keep in mind that there is a reason for her crying.  Until you know the reason, the crying probably will continue.

What I would do is work with a mental health professional regarding this issue.  The therapist would be instrumental in helping your daughter appropriately express her feelings and get to the reason for her crying.