My 6 year old's possible regression

[kris1112]

My son just turned 6 years old and is an only child.  He has been doing great with being potty-trained for years.  My father (his grandfather) passed away about 4 months ago.  I feel as though he has been regressing over the past few months.  He is having more wetting accidents, both at night and during the day.  He doesn't seem to have any accidents at school, or at least they have not been brought to my attention.  About two days ago, he pooped in his pants.  He is becoming more clingy and asking us to sleep with him or vice-versa more often.  Should I be concerned?  Should I take him to his pediatrician?  Should I seek professional counseling??  Thank you!

[kris1112]

His birthday is in June.  I've never even thought of that!  I know he's a very open, talkative, friendly kid.  However, he does have a few kids that cause him some angst (when he messes up, they giggle and it makes him mad, etc.).  I will talk to his teacher.  It was happening over the summer as well, but mostly when he's trying to play or part of an activity and doesn't want to stop and use the restroom.  I will speak with his teacher this afternoon!  Thank you!!!!!!!

[Sandman2]

   One other possibility is anxiety.   If he is in first grade and just turned 6, he is probably one of the youngest kids in his class.  And, although, he is friends with everyone - the "being on the spot" academically speaking may be getting to him.  I would find out from his teacher how his age compares to other kids in his class.  When is his birthday by the way?  And, of course, has most of this happened since the start of school?

[kris1112]

Thank you for the advice!!

[margypops]

Then I would just let it go , no more talk of death he is obviously feeling traumatised by it all , time to day nothing and let him get over good luck

[kris1112]

We do not have internet access, but we have a computer.  We are very cautious about what he watches on TV and he does not have a babysitter when we are out.  We usually let my husband's parents watch him, but that is very infrequent.  He was really upset when we told him about it, but we did not let him attend the visitation or funeral as we thought he might be too young to handle such a scene.  We have talked with him about our dying and he has told us he's afraid we're going to get sick and die.  But we have tried to reassure him.  He doesn't bring it up very often and we try to maintain communication as often as possible.  Thank you for the input!!

[margypops]

humm the plot thickens ..well if it continues I would speak to the doctor . does he have access to the computer ?TV he may see scary things on does he have babysitter when you are out? I ask that as it has been known for teen babysitters to put on stuff a younger child may not understand.Sounds like he was upset by his granpa passing on , was he really upset whe it happened and heaard much grief going on, he may be concerned it will happen to you soon hence the clinginess and wanting to sleep with you

[kris1112]

No new changes.  We are not expecting another child and he doesn't have any other siblings.  He has a small class for 1st grade, so he's friends with everyone in his class.  He's particularly close to one little girl in his class.  He does look forward to going to school.  Dad is very active in his life; they play games together, do "guy stuff" together.  He was close to my dad, but not the "saw-him-everyday" close.

[margypops]

what other changes has there been in his life , a new sibling many times there is regression when they feel Baby or younger child is getting all the attention and they wants some .how is he doing at school has he friends , does he look forward to getting there .What about his Dad is he actively in his life playing games and having fun Very often there is a reason.If he was really close to hie granpa that is one reason ,