My boyfriend and son don't get on

[Tina259]

My son who is 8 and my partner dont get on. I'm with my partner a year and he has a son from a previous relationship. He only sees him once or twice a month and pays no maintenance for him. He doesn't work. He is on disability and has no intention of going to look for work either. He makes my son say please can I watch telly when my son comes in from school.and if he don't say please he don't get the remote. He doesn't spend time with him nor plays with him or has no interest in anything he does. Me and my sons dad have a brilliant relationship and he sees him all the time and loves his dad's partner. Which is brilliant. But sometimes I wish my partner and him could be the same and sometimes I feel like it's not fair on him to put up with this either. Would love some advise on this please.

[Huicsjvulfcssjvy]

Always listen to your child. Children see things that you don't until it's too late

[specialmom]

You said:  he sees his son twice a month, he doesn't pay maintenance for him, he doesn't work, he's on disability and has no intention of going to look for work.  AND he is not getting along with your child.  What is attractive to you about this man?  With so much to be truly concerned about, maybe he isn't the best choice in boyfriends.  He's certainly NOT a role model for your child.  I feel like you can do better.  You care about your child, have had a mature break up with your ex and get along with him now, etc.  What about throwing this fish back and finding someone that is better suited for your family life?  Or your life in general to be an equal contributor in the least and willing to take care of their responsibilities.  I don't think I could take any man seriously that didn't at least pay child support for their child.  Start over hon.  Move on and find a better match for you AND your son.  good luck