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My child does not pay any attention to what is being told

my child generally doesn't pay attention to what he is told. It is more like he doesn't want to listen to what he is told to do. Yesterday for eg. i ws asking him to watch me on how to unbutton a shirt. he was not looking at all and if i insisted he will look fora few seconds and then look away. Also when i sit with him to teach him to write or colour he will try to do things his own way even when i show him multiple time on how it should be done.

Generally he is quick at grasping things out of his own volition but when told or shown some thing that is expected to be followed he does't listen. Also he is very moody and throws tantrums frequently,

He will be attending kindergarden in some days. So I am very worried about this behavior as i fee that this will affect his learning at school. Could this be a symptom of ADHD or Dyslexia. Is there a way to get this corrected.
I will be grateful for any suggestions in this regard.

Thanks,
Shankar
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13167 tn?1327197724
How did he do in preschool?  Children often do better in a classroom where all the students are "learners" and it's not just one on one instruction from a parent.

Some children like to figure things out for themselves - and you say he generally is able to do that,  so that's a good sign.  

There are some things he should be allowed to do "his own way" in my opinion,  like coloring.  A child who won't color a picture a specific way should probably be allowed to be creative and do it their own way.  

Sometimes,  allowing a child to do things by themselves and then ask if they need help is easier than just always showing a child how to do something and then demanding that they follow those steps.  Obviously,  this doesn't work in all situations but if he often has the chance to do things his own way or try to learn to do it before asking for what help he needs,  he will probably be more receptive to instruction.  

I'm including this link because I think this is probably what your child seems like (although this one is a girl).  Love this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A6Bu96ALOw
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Thanks Rockrose
189897 tn?1441130118
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I agree with Rockrose.....kids of this age do much better by doing, not watching.   And by taking things one step at a Time and then practicing.
   And, yes, he does show some signs of ad/hd. But, would really need more information.   Here is a link that should be helpful.  https://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/attention-deficit-disorder-adhd-in-children.htm.  
   I am more concerned about him being moody and throwing tantrums.   That could really hinder him in kindergarten.  You need to figure out what his triggers are.  Then you need to show him ways to deal with this.   One very good way is a set of books aimed at this age group.  They are meant to be read aloud many times and practiced.  A good one is "When I feel angry".  https://www.amazon.com/When-Feel-Angry-Way-Books/dp/0807588970/ref=pd_sim_14_15?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0807588970&pd_rd_r=D5Z7FHSQPQPN1ABCD8GH&pd_rd_w=gvX55&pd_rd_wg=hOgiC&refRID=D5Z7FHSQPQPN1ABCD8GH&th=1
   Also, "Cool down and work through anger".  
https://www.amazon.com/Cool-Through-Anger-Learning-Along/dp/1575423464/ref=pd_sim_14_8?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1575423464&pd_rd_r=DQRZ60Y0KK6GMF6QPGCJ&pd_rd_w=6EmEZ&pd_rd_wg=s5MN8&psc=1&refRID=DQRZ60Y0KK6GMF6QPGCJ

Hope this helps!  Oh, I am also the CL on the ADHD forum here - http://www.medhelp.org/forums/ADD---ADHD/show/175.    If you have any more questions about that please feel free to also post over there.  
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Thank you Sandman2
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He sounds like he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder, ODD, where like you explained he will do the things that he wants to do but not things other people ask him to do, a medecine that helps is guanfacine
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ODD is a lot more serious than just not listening. My son has it and guanafacine does help. This just sounds like normal behavior for a child that age
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