My son is five, he refuses to poo in the toilet.
We went to a specialist who said hes pooping himself because he is constipated, so we worked hard on "cleaning him out". The biggest problem we face is: he doesn't care. He doesn't want to sit on the toilet, not even for one minute. We have brought toys in, movies, leapfrog's, sat in there with him. He wont even sit down most of the time.
We have tried rewards, taking things away, followed what the doctors have told us (which, with having seen 3 different doctors and specialist is a lot of different things.) He pees in the toilet, never has accidents with peeing. He went to bed one night in underwear and didn't pee, and still hasn't, unless it's in a toilet.
We ask him to sit on the toilet, or if he needs to be cleaned up/changed and he starts yelling and screaming, sometimes kicking and hitting.
He gets picked on at school about it and doesn't care. He will be in grade one in september and I am at my wits end. I'm so frustrated.
We have had family and children services come to us investigating abuse in the home, which there is none, because of this soiling issue.
Taking things away, suggesting we can do something he wants to do, and buying new toys does nothing to persuade him. He will fight until he is blue in the face.