My son (8) says his brain tells him bad things about his family

[flash8o]

I have a son who is now 8 years old. We have never had any major problems with him whatsoever. However recently something has changed. We have just found out that my finace is pregent and is approx 2 months along. My son seemed extremly happy about the idea of being an ''older brother'' when we first told him about it.

However the last month or so has been a different story. He has been telling my finace and myself very scary things. For example, he told me a couple days ago (out of nowhere) that he wishes that i was dead. However then he goes on to say that its not him that wants to say it but instead that its his brain that is telling him to say it. He also went on to tell my finace a few times that he wished she was dead....Or that his brain tells him that he wants to hurt her with a knife,etc.... This has happened about 6-8 times total so far.

I am no doctor but my personal thoughts are that he is starting to get jealous about the thought of a new child and is trying to come up with new ways for attention. Honestly i figured maybe it might just be a normal phase that he might be going through, but my finance on the other hand is deeply worried. So i figured i would post the question on her, just for some thoughts and maybe some insight and advice.

Thank You and hope to hear from you soon.

[margypops]

You have hit the Nail on the head,he has feelings of jealousy,best to ignore the negative stuff he says it is getting him the attention he is seeking, make sure he believes he will still be part of your lives and tell him all the ways he can help with Baby, he doesnt mean those things hes just acting out to get you to still be interested in him. Tell him how much you are glad he is goingt to be able to help and be a big Brother, he needs reasuring from both of you that he will still be important in your lives.It is pretty normal, when the Baby comes make sure he is part of it all and not feeling left out as so often Babys come along and older children get left out and feel bewildered at being Usurped. The fact you came here to ask shows you care lots of talking about him, you guys and the Baby and let him help when Baby comes. Good Luck

[flash8o]

Sorry, this was a double post..