Need advice

[Giovi]

My son is 3 years and 4 month old, and is going through a very difficult phase. He

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Your temper dyscontrol may be symptomatic of mood disorder and is worth evaluating. One of the 'downsides' of the stimulant medications is that they have the potential of exacerbating problems with anger, though they generally do not have such an impact.

[Tensore]

I too have ADHD, and am on 20mg of Adderall XR daily, and 10mg of Adderall IR at my discretion.  I must say that I can relate to the impulses of violence, although I have never struck a person or object.  I felt like ripping down the shower curtain because the bottom of the curtain kept sticking to my leg.  I wanted to punch my computer because it kept freezing, slamming my fist into the monitor because when I clicked "close" it wouldn't exit.  I've even had suicidal thoughts (let me assure you I have too much respect for myself and body to do anything like that.   I also know that most people who have commit suicide try and live afterwards.  If nothing else, my religion doesn't exactly hold suicide in high esteem.)  I normally am a docile and amicable person.  
      I was fortunate enough to find a place where I can alleviate my anger, music.  Usually when I in rage, or  becoming enraged, I find contentment in music.  My point is that if you can find a subject, or place that calms the person down, you can manage the anger.  Then talk to the person calmly about what they can do, or what they should do.  I also suggest that you don't   confront them in their "happy place" as this may lead them to feel "invaded."

Please remember that I am NOT a doctor, or no where near it.  I am simply trying to provide a possible solution that has worked for me. Hope this helps.

Any advice on either a solution, or more information for my "condition" would be much appreciated.

[Tensore]

I too have ADHD, and am on 20mg of Adderall XR daily, and 10mg of Adderall IR at my discretion.  I must say that I can relate to the impulses of violence, although I have never struck a person or object.  I felt like ripping down the shower curtain because the bottom of the curtain kept sticking to my leg.  I wanted to punch my computer because it kept freezing, slamming my fist into the monitor because when I clicked "close" it wouldn't exit.  I've even had suicidal thoughts (let me assure you I have too much respect for myself and body to do anything like that.   I also know that most people who have commit suicide try and live afterwards.  If nothing else, my religion doesn't exactly hold suicide in high esteem.)  I normally am a docile and amicable person.  
      I was fortunate enough to find a place where I can alleviate my anger, music.  Usually when I in rage, or  becoming enraged, I find contentment in music.  My point is that if you can find a subject, or place that calms the person down, you can manage the anger.  Then talk to the person calmly about what they can do, or what they should do.  I also suggest that you don't   confront them in their "happy place" as this may lead them to feel "invaded."

Please remember that I am NOT a doctor, or no where near it.  I am simply trying to provide a possible solution that has worked for me. Hope this helps.

Any advice on either a solution, or more information for my "condition" would be much appreciated.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You should take tour son to the local emergency room and tell them what has occurred. It is not safe to schedule a routine evaluation. While this next suggestion may seem incredible to you, I hope you take it seriously. If the hospital ER visit does not result in immediate intervention, contact the Social Services Department and make a report yourself. Your son needs to be protected from his impulses and it is your obligation to protect your daughter as well. Your fear re: Social Services' involvement cannot stand in the way of doing what is right. Also, if you have health insurance, contact the number on the back of the card re: Mental Health treatment. Ask to speak with a clinician and explain the situation and the need for immediate intervention.

[missy#1]

My son is 4 years old and he has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on meds since the age of two and we just moved to a different town where I have not been able to yet establish him with a new treatment plan.  He has had two incidents where he's taken his agressions beyond just behavioral he has actually stabbed my fiance in the lip but trying for his sister.  So we put all the knifes and sharp objects in lock up so last night he tried the next best thing he decided to take a glass and shatter it so that he could use some of the pieces to cut my daughter and fiance.  When I came back I was so angry with him that I had him stand in the corner for at least 20 minutes for me to calm down before I spanked him cause if I did not take a time out for myself I would have gone to far with his punishment.  I need help for him before Social Services trys to take my daughter from me because this is the second time he has hurt her and he needs some serious phsyciatric evaluations before it is to late and he succseeds in killing someone.  I am no doctor but if you ask me it appears that he has some sort of multiple personality disorder.  I have tried to have him tested with the doctor that he was formerly with and all they kept telling me is that he is to young.  Please help me in getting my son the help he needs.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Since what you are seeing is a change from your son's baseline level of functioning, it is quiute likely that it represents a developmental regression in the service of making some ultimate gains. The situation would be exacerbated by any significant change in the environment, such as the departure of his grandmother. It sounds like you are doing the sensible things, particularly espousing sensible standards for his behavior and following through by setting limits and disciplining him when necessary. Try to reduce a bit any demanding experiences (e.g., partcipating in large groups of children), and try to simplify his day-to-day life as much as you reasonably can.