Hi, I have an 11 year old that I have adopted about 5 months ago, she has come from a very harsh background. She lost her mom at 5, saw her father rape a handicap child, and rejected from 2 home because she was "stupid" and "un-wanted". As far as behaviour issues, not a whole lot. what i am seeing is her forgetting homework, chores, daily tasks such as showers, etc. When I have a conversation with her she holds eye contact for a whole 2.5 sec. before she looks at anything else, and starts picking at her nails,etc. I am noticing alot of doodles on her papers in school. Teachers tell her she can do better. I am worried about going to a doctor cause she has been on about 30 diff. meds for Depression and stress disorder in the past. It made things worse, about 4 months ago the docter took her off and she has been doing great. she holds a low B average in school(with costant supervision & remindings) I feel if she is Wanting the attention then I will Spoil her by giving in. on the other hand I feel if she NEEDS the attention I will hurt her academically and emotionally if she doesnt get it. Last night I explained what ADD was, and she started to cry, said she did not want to be ADD because she was not "stupid". I beleive she is very smart, just needs to focus. Any tips or advice with no medications? I dont want her to feel like a failure or stupid but I dont want her to loose it and become depressed. Any thoughts would be appreciated.