My husband and I are in the middle of a nightmare situation. He has a 6 year old boy (almost 7) in the first grade. His younger sister and him live with us every other week. It used to be every other weekend, but his mom (my husbands exwife) was struggling with the kids listening to her. She knows that they are a discipline problem and the kids have always respected and listened to their father much better than her. Therefore, their mom asked that they start living with us at least 50% of the time.
Our Son has been sent home from school almost everyday with a bad report. Lying, stealing, etc. We've spent alot of time at church, talking to him, encouraging him, taking things away, etc. My husband has never really wanted to spank the children. I told him that they need to have something done. My husband and I talked to the mother of the kids and she agreed to have my husband swat our son on the bottom 3 times with a belt. We sat our son down and explained to him that this was going to happen and why. He understood. My husband then proceeded to do so and then we further talked to our son about it. He promised he'd be more respectful. He has not had a single bad report since and it's been 3 weeks.
However someone, not the mother called child abuse on my husband. My husband was arrested and he cannot see his son. We are awaiting trial (the DA has not said if they are prosecuting or not) and our son is begging to see his dad. However, I have to make up every excuse in the book as to why he cannot see him.
Our concern is that our son will have some sort of trauma from being away from his father for so long and crying about it every night. Also his tball starts this week and why his daddy isn't there to warm up with? I just need some advice on how to get through this rough time and how we can make sure our son is not affected by this. We are so scared to ever punish our children now and we feel that the courts, DHS and everyone won't even take the time to read the reports to see that this is not child abuse. They are not wanting to do anything until trial which is still another month away. Our son can't possibly understand why he can't see his dad. And would it be wise to explain to our son what is going on? We don't want him thinking that it is illegal to punish him, but we don't want him thinking his dad has abandoned him. Please help our family get through this heartbreaking time.