Thank you all so much for your kind words. As an update... just as suspected that was the 1st thing she said when we got home. Me and her father talked her to and lightly told her the truth. We somewhat limited it to only what we asked, but for now she seemed content with the answers. Thank you all again for your words of encouragement!!!!
Dusty, this is so hard. I think you should be sort of honest, but not say too much. Like, your mother has problems. She really loves you and is trying to do the best that she can, but she has a lot of personal problems. I thank God that He gave you to us, because we love you forever." I don't know, something like that.
God bless you for caring so much.
The few things that I can recomend that you do is write EVERYTHING down. Everytime she calls and even if you can record the conversations with her "MOM" (a name that should be reserved for you) talk to your lawyer about the legalities of that. Just tell her the age appropriate answers to her questions.
Hope this helps, Good Luck
I feel for you, and YOUR daughter. If she is as mature as she seems then tell her the truth. She seems to be making her own decisions as far as MOM is concerned. I pray that everyhting will work out and the courts will see who has truly been the mommy for that little girl. The statement "any guy can be a father but it takes a Man to be a dad" or maybe thats backwards. Anyway us Moms should get a saying as well and it should start with you. You are genuinely a mom. Good luck and God bless
thanks for your support! Yeah we talked about it and he is just as nervous as I... we have to be careful because naturally she may repeat it and we don't need to happen if we fabercate... i just don't know what to do. I knew this day would come... I just didn't expect it so soon =[
Wow. I have a four year old and I am certain she would be asking the exact same questions, and at that age, they expect a good answer. Have you spoken to your husband about how to answer? I would sit down together and have your answers prepared as much as possible. At four I believe my daughter understands very well, and I know for certain she remembers everything. Obviously you have to be careful what you say, as she is her mother, but anyone can be a mother, YOU are her mom. Good luck with this situation.
Tiffiny