My daughter is 7 years old and in second grade. My wife and I have had concerns about anxiety since she was very young. I thought the anxiety issue would pass, but it seems to be becoming more pervasive. She is an only child, very bright (I guess I am going to brag now), all of the mental and verbal milestones were reached early (1st word 8 mos, walked at 10 mos, ABCs at 14 mos, etc.). She is at the top of her second grade class academically. She seems to be so mature at times, but will often revert to what I call "baby mode," throwing temper tantrums if she does not get everything her own way.
Socially, I see issues. She is in activities--played softball last summer and is now in basketball. While planning for these activities, initially she is very excited and asks to play repeatedly. However, when it comes time to actually go to the event and play she becomes very clingy, hiding behind my wife or I, states that she does not want to play, tries to quit, etc. We actually let her quit gymnastics and soccer at her request. Amazingly, she did not ask to quit softball (I think she loves the game) and I did not let her quit basketball...she goes, but she is very timid. It's not just sports, but there have many activities in which she showed great interest right up until the time the event was about to ensue, then she "chickens out or at least tries to." I worry that she is going to miss out on things. We have offered music, martial arts, sports, scouts, etc,etc
As for friends, there are two children that live two houses form us--she will not play with anyone else. Two girls moved in across the street, we were very excited until we told our daughter--she promptly stated that "I will never play with them." She did have a few friends in 1st grade, but these relationships have dissolved. However, when I pick her up at school, many kids will smile at her, say goodbye, say hi, etc. My wife helps at the school and states that she doesn't seem interested in having more than one friend.
We live about 5 blocks from school and there is a boy in her class that lives o the way. His mother does not drive, so my wife volunteered to drive him on inclimate days. She cries, states that she "hates picking him up," "let him walk in the rain," etc. This behavior perplexes me--I tell her that it's just being nice.
She also has a problem with functional constipation. The child will not go to the bathroom at school, especially not bowel movements. This runs in cycles--as soon as we think it is going to go away, it comes back.
1. Has to have her own way or else a tantrum ensues.
2. Throws a fit if her routine is deviated from or if somebody does something which she deems as being the incorrect way of doing it.
3. Will not try a new food.
4. Writes very sloppy in fear of missing her recess or not getting the assignment done.
5. Has a ridiculously mature, sarcastic, and funny sense of humor.