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The way 6 years old son treat his 3 years old brother

My 6 years old son often not being very gentle to his younger brother, for example if he challenge or ask the younger guy anything he will never agree with the answers and always try to win over his younger brother. It is quite different from the way my sister treat me when I was small as far as I can remember.
That sometimes make me wonder if I need to make interference sometimes because I think that way he educated his brother will not encourage him and finally make the younger one always feel disappointed. More over the younger one will learn from that and treat other people in the same manner ?
I think now the way I always be gentle with children and know how to encourage people is because my mother or my sister teach me how that would be nice for people to receive it. So I am afraid my 2 son might lack of this understanding ?
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Gosh, it's hard.  I have two sons that are just a year apart in age. When they were little, we did things like "everyone gets a turn to win" or if someone wanted something the other had, they had to make a trade to take it.  And that everyone got a chance to choose and we took turns.  I'd start maybe doing some of that and reward with praise when he is caught doing anything positive with his sibling!  We used beans that we put in a jar too for these things and when he got to 6 beans, he got to have a reward like picking the movie we watched or a cookie or something.  
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That is very creative way, I will have to learn from that ! Tk you specialmom.
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I had a brother who was 41/2 years older than I was, and he was a very frustrated guy who took it out on me.  Our play always ended with him basically beating me up.  As you can imagine, this didn't lead to a good long-term relationship.  My parents never did anything about it, and when my Mom did, it was usually to punish me, for some reason, probably because I would end up crying.  Of course I got older and we stopped playing together and that solves the problem, but I would have liked to have had a good relationship with my older brother.  But the hard part is, young kids just accept what's going on as normal even if it's not what they like, which is how I responded -- it never stopped me from wanting to play with him, but again, it did lead to problems down the road when we got older.  I don't believe the problem was with my brother, it was with my parents for not doing anything about it, so my suggestion would be to try at least to see if you can interrupt this behavior with gentle encouragement.  I think my brother could have used some of that so he didn't feel frustrated and didn't feel jealous about a new child coming along.  
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Tks for sharing your valuable experience ! It is very important to know how it will effect the people and what will be the results when they will grow up. I think you have helped me to realise one important thing "young kids just accept what's going on as normal even if it's not what they like". That really touches my heart. I will have to find the ways to improve the situation. Thank you !
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