I am the mother of 5, and am going insane! 12G, 10G, 7B, 3B, 1G are their ages. My 10 year old got SUSPENDED!! We do not curse in our home and definitely do NOT approve of this activity by any means, however, Adriana felt it apparently 'OK' to write a note to a friend speaking ill of her teacher using volgarity that I didn't even know existed until I was in college! She spent her 2 days of suspension writing lines and an essay on how ill natured it was and why it is unacceptable to speak that way, followed by a letter to her teacher, principal and one to fellow students apologizing for her behavior. Just the other day, she was at the playground with the other children and I heard her shout the SAME volgarity to another playmate. Grounding has not worked, speaking to her has not accomplished anything, she is falling behind in her studies at school, and is now required to attend summer school to prevent the failure of fourth grade! 3 of the 5 children are tested as advanced and our 12 year old whom will turn 13 in November is already attending High School and is very well centered and mature. The 3 year old is a whole different story; Thomas will be 4 in 3 weeks, and will NOT allow any sort of potty training. I have tried what I believe to be EVERY avenue to accomplish this, and he remains unfiltered in any of our attempts. We figured when Madison (22 months) was potty training (at 18 mo.) he would follow her promptly. We bought him 'big boy pants' with cartoon characters to mimic hers and let him pick out his own 'potty chair'. We bought every neat potty game, book, film, etc. I have since quit my job to stay home with him to try to accomplish this, as he starts school in 2 very short months. He also finds it comical to destroy house fixtures such as the venitian blinds, tearing up tissues and using them as action figures (which he has PLENTY of), tears the pages out of his books and says he read them. His vocabulary has fallen short of that of our baby. She is very intellegent and speaks very clearly, but at almost 4 he should have well surpassed her. I am scared that he has a disability that his Physician has not allocated. I am almost INSANE with confussion on these two! Any advice would be greatly appreciated and hopefully save my sanity!
A proud but scared Mother of 5