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Unacceptable behavior like talking back,raising his voice ,a sign of disrespectfulness

I have a son going 15th.He was hyperactive and outgrown that without medications.He is now very much involved in computer  games,whenever I told him to stop he became so furious about it,Or when he didn't get what he wants,he behaves badly like talking back,disarranged or make his room upside down/messy.He shouts at me trying to reason out with disrespect..As a MOm I feel so frustrated and tell my self," Is this the kind of son I have? My other son does the opposite.He listens and just cry.Never talk back or shows a sign of disrespect.I am really worried about this youngest son of mine.He goes to school and come back after school.There were no activities after school because I can't drive him for any sports because of my work load.He is very much a loving child when his wishes are met.But when he uses the computer and stop him...the resistance is there and cannot follow directions at once.Pls advised.

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535822 tn?1443976780
Your boy is bored and the computer games are his way of dealing with it,he does need some Physical activities as this will help him, do not take thePC games away but lesson them, fill some time with outside activities and sports , you say you have a work load ,is there someone can help you, any friend can come by and play basket ball or soccer if there is a dad around get him involved also,dont worry about his messiness it is him to has to live in his room,teens do that, focus on his positive side , get him busy.
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I think you should'nt give into the behavior. You have to stand your ground or else he will soon feel that he is in control of you. People can make excuses for the behavior, but he learns that his behavior is NOT acceptable he will turn out a much happier guy in the long run... it might be battle for the time being trying to get him to cooperate with you but you have to look at the bigger picture... if you blame his behavior on him being "bored" and give in imagine him 10 years from now what his behavior will be... Set a firm and good example of how you would want him to raise his children one day.
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I think you do need to set some rules and limit the computer time. You are allowed to have rules in your home as long as he is living there. You need to be firm. Sit him down and tell him that the disrespect will no longer be tolerated and if he destroys his room, shouts, acts mean or disrespectful that he will be grounded and the computer, cell phone, etc., will be taken away until you decide. He will balk at first if he's not used to a lot of rules. Expect that but stay firm and consistent. Kids need boundaries.

I agree that he needs outside activities to be well rounded and healthy. Sitting in front of a computer or video games all the time is not healthy for a child or an adult. Get him involved in some other activities and keep the computer out where you can see it. The computer usage should be a privilege just like driving or anything else that will come up. It's not a right, it's a privilege. Too many kids today think it's their right to have all these things. Not at all. All we parents have to do is provide a warm shelter, food, clothing and schooling. All the rest is privileges and they need to understand that. If he doesn't act right, he doesn't get these privileges. It's as simple as that. You are the parent, he is the child. Remember that.
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